Slightly shameful regrets you can’t admit to IRL

[CurlewKate]

I had two incredibly healthy enormous babies. I have a secret regret that I never had a little dinky newborn. I’ve been cuddling my friend’s 6 pounder and she’s so cute and little….(she’s healthy and thriving which is obviously the most important thing of course)

🙌

Just coming back to point out that I made it very clear that full term and healthy is the only important thing. And my friend’s baby is both of those things.

Both of mine were over 12 pounds at birth so I never had the tiny newborn experience. I loved their chunk. The only thing I missed out on was having them in a baby carrier, they were just too heavy!

I said DS looked like a chicken when he was born, I had IUGR when I was pregnant with him so was induced at 37 weeks. He was 4lb 9oz and he was so small I was frightened to even touch him incase I broke him

How big is enormous?

my secret shame is being over 11lbs and my mother loves to tell EVERYONE

Oh come off it you don't need to find offense in everything. DS was 9lb 1 and still spent a week in NICU.

I'm confused as to how you can regret the size of your baby personally

I regret not giving birth to a bag of money

Mine were both nearly 11lbs which I was grateful
for as I was totally unused to babies and they were nicely robust. I’ve since acquired teeny tiny grandbabies and they’re terrifyingly fragile.

Think this has morphed into a totally different thread .
I regret not getting a better education and career although on RL I pretend I never cared. I also regret have too many sexual encounters but again I'd never say so . And I regretted marrying my ex but don't want my DCs to feel bad about it.
And I was glad my babies were smaller as my two huge nephews were pretty ugly and were too big for me to hold them for long .

i love love loved my huge baby but I do understand you op, she was huge, non of the new born or 0-3m stuff I bought ever really fit her. She never had that newborn scrunch and she never went in the pram bassinet and she outgrew all the baby things like bouncers, Moses baskets her infant car seat within the first few months and even though she was happy she never really slept. I felt like I never experienced that tiny sleepy newborn all the other NCT mums seemed to have. I was sad all the clothes I was gifted didn’t get used and I had to buy all new clothes and cots and car seats much earlier than expected. She was so heavy when I was recovering from a difficult birth and infections. But ofc I also loved how robust she was (as well as everything else about her!)

I also had a really rough recovery and I do regret that period, I wish I could have enjoyed it more.

sometimes when I hold a friends baby I’m like oh gosh this is so lovely I wish I could’ve enjoyed this tiny baby when I was in it. Then I think oh actually I never had a baby this tiny!

obviously as pp have said other people have it worse or harder or whatever else but I think it’s ok to still have these secret-in
-real-life thoughts.

Babies all look like little old people on their last legs in a nursing home

Can someone perhaps add a 'regret' that isn't baby related as the OP wants rather than just railroad the thread?

There are a few men I regret I never slept with. I sometimes regret choosing London over Paris. I should have started writing seriously earlier.

ETA A baby-related one. I regret not managing to breastfeed — I just never developed a supply.

Holy shit! Did you make the paper?

Mine were similar. I thought they were tiny.

This wasn’t the thread I thought it would be 🙃 what a strange “regret” (I had a 2lb baby maybe that’s the problem )

I know how you feel. Mine were 10lb 2ozs and 9lb n half an ounce! My ex husband had to run out and buy bigger size vests and sleep suits as everything we had in the hospital was too small😂.

Forgot to say I hurt my back lifting the 10 pounder when she was 2 months old as she weighed 14lb at her 7 weeks check up. It was a week late because of Christmas.

I very much regret being so open to people using me as a teenager and taking way too much shit from boyfriends at the time. I wish I hadn’t dated until I was 21. I wish I had seen my ex husbands shit sooner and had more self esteem. I wish I had been happier to be single and do my own thing. I think I’ve been single about 5 minutes in total since I was 15.

I regret not taking more time off work when I’m sick.

I’m in my fifties now and have been struck down with this new flu/covid/cough from hell that seems to be going around and have absolutely no intention of ‘struggling in’ tomorrow - despite having had a whole two days off already.

I regret not taking enough care of myself when I was younger. My pelvic floor in particular. It’s not like I was never told.
Better late than never I guess and hopefully surgery will fix the issue next year.

Think if it had been natural birth then maybe the papers would have been interested, but both c sections thank god.

Are you tall? Where did
You fit them?!

I'm 5ft 1 and partner 6ft1!! I looked insane, my bump was oblong 😆