Does anyone else get sad at Christmas for no reason at all?

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I think it’s the music. I have a great Christmas really, loads of fun on the day and a fairly big family but on the run up to it, I feel a bit teary!

I’ve put my tree up today and had the music on and I’m sat here feeling a bit blue.

I’ve never liked Christmas, even as a child….I’m always glad when January comes round….I’m not on my own..I have AC, GC , my DP and my DM ….I’m never on my own but could gladly opt out

I'm always a bit sad for George whenever I hear Last Christmas (been Whamageddoned already this year!).

Generally Christmas makes me feel.....grief. I hide it and have a jolly time for the sake of my family, but for some reason it fills me with a vague sense of dread/death. I think it is partly the nostalgia, it reminds me of childhood, and my childhood was so very shit, but it also makes me think of a local accident that happened Christmas eve one year and 2 men died while they were working. I commute past the spot to work every day and at Christmas I always think of those poor guys and their families. It must have been 20 years ago but I always sing silent night for them when driving and bawl my eyes out. I have no idea why it still gets me so bad 😭

No..

I have loads of legitimate reasons to feel sad about it. I don't celebrate it anymore.

Definitely! My childhood christmases were nice but fairly low key. I made an effort when my kids were younger but one year when they were teenagers they disappeared to their rooms after our Christmas Day lunch and that was it! I remember feeling so deflated. No offers to help tidy up etc. I can’t be doing with the false bonhomie and people asking afterwards if you had a good Christmas and then you feel obliged to say ‘wonderful thank you. Spent lots of time with family’ and the badge of honour worn by those who had 19 around the table. ‘Total chaos, but I loved it’. I’m very happy with the true meaning of Christmas but I’ll leave the consumer-driven hype to others.

Yeah I always feel a bit nostalgic at Christmas. Many reasons really which are mainly in my head and I need to work hard to not let those thoughts take over. One thing is I always feel I could have done better for kids but I am trying my best within our means and deep down I know this is all I can ask of myself. I see families having all those amazing days out trips etc during December and I feel guilty. Another thing is we are rearely with family at Christmas (we don't have any family in the UK) and I always feel sad when grandparents watch my kids unwrapping presents over facetime. Then when we do travel for Christmas it's to my in laws house - my family is in different country and they dont have room in the house to host us and I have complicated relationship with my stepdad (thought of seeing him makes me physically ill, last time I had to take medication to calm down!) But I know it makes my mum sad too. Tricky time overall for me!

That is so accurate and so beautiful that it brought tears to my eyes, I am half Welsh too, the Celts understand emotions

Yes I so miss my my mum and sister, Christmas songs on the radio make me bawl.

Yes....I've always found this to be a very sad and lonely time, despite having people in my life. Every year it's the same....just burst into tears for no apparent reason. I wish I could go to sleep now and wake up on the 28th when it's all over. Hearing carols, Christmas songs, brass bands in town centres....all triggers. There's nothing happy about it at all.

Virtual hugs to those that feel the same.