DP and I have been together nearly 2 years. From day one, we spoke very openly about the things we wanted in a relationship, which was before we were together. We were acquaintances before this and the conversation came up as we got chatting at a festival we were at with a group of our friends.
He told me he had always dreamed of having children and getting married. I told him marriage was very important to me and although I already have a DS (he’s almost 18), having more children would be something I’d love too.
After my son, I had secondary infertility for 14 years so went to have some tests. To my complete surprise, I was told I was pregnant. Much earlier than expected and because I had naively thought I’d struggle to get pregnant without help. Turns out the issue was my exH.
We currently have a beautiful newborn baby girl and we are happy. However, a couple of months ago, I gently reminded DP how important marriage is to me and he agreed it was for him too.
My concern is that me having his child hasn’t yet prompted a proposal and whilst that’s fine for now, when do I realise that I probably won’t get one and should consider my next steps? Marriage is very important to me and although we do share a child, I don’t want to feel strung along and like I was used to give him his long awaited baby. Further commitment is necessary for the security of our family.
Yes I know, this is why marriage should be before children, but it just unintentionally didn’t happen like that for us.
Let me know your thoughts. Thank you.