Words of wisdom needed please

[jeremyclarksonsthirdnipple]

Can I ask you all how I can stop taking a child to school with my ds as the kids don;t get on and my ds resents it? I need to do this kindly but I cannot find the words..Can you help at all?
Thank You

How did you get in to this position and what's your relationship with the child's parent like?

How old are the children, how long is the journey and what is the reason you are doing it in the first place? Why don't the children get on? Is it just they have nothing in common or is there bullying going on?

If the children are teenagers and it's a ten minute journey then I'd have my child in the front and the other in the back and just get on with it if the parents of the other child have a genuine reason for not being able to do the school run themselves and there's no nastiness involved.

On the other hand if they are much younger and there is a genuine problem between the two of them, not just "I don't want to play with them", then I would send a message along the lines of: "Dear parent of other child, As you are probably aware, "Sam" and "Bob" don't get along and "Sam" is becoming distressed having to be in the car with "Bob", therefore, with immediate affect / after the Christmas break, I won't be able to give "Bob" a lift to school anymore. Please could you make other arrangements. Thanks, Jeremy

But how I handled it might vary again depending on the factors involved.

Hi so to answer a few points..I offered to give lifts to a new starter at high school as its a 30 min car ride away and my son has been in the school for a few years and we were happy to help our friends son settle in but they are clashing badly,my son hates it ,their son isn;t happy and calls my son a bully ..its awful. The few years age difference is apparent and its just not working out all ways round. I don;t know how to address it without causing upset as I like the parents.

Just tell them it isn't working out and you won't be able to give him a lift after Christmas.

‘Sorry, but the kids just don’t get on now, so it’s become very stressful. From X date I won’t be able to take him/her any more.’

I don’t know if x has said anything to you already but the kids don’t get in and I think it best if I don’t give c a lift anymore - I’ll go up to Christmas if that helps

I'd probably agree to do it until the end of term, but say they will need to find an alternative arrangement for January.

You tell them you can’t do it from January (or sooner) “for personal reasons “. This isn’t a lie. If the parents push you, you just repeat yourself “sorry, it’s personal”

Thank you all for your advice