Things I’m just not doing any more

[Newstartplease24]

1. trying to look at someone’s phone screen. Tell me what you want to tell me. Or send me something, if you MUST. I’m not peering at anyone else’s phone ever again, while they point it at their own face and dont turn it towards me properly, and expect me to lean into their nasty breath and cold germs.
2. installing an app. No. Just no. I can’t possibly need or want whatever it is enough to make a fucking app worthwhile.
3. using self service if there are any staffed tills at all. Fine to wait thanks. No I don’t want to hear about the unexpected item in the bagging area. How can it be unexpected? A. I just scanned it and b. It’s a fucking bag of parsley in Lidl, it’s not a fucking surprise. I won’t be dancing about looking for permission to move something 1cm or buy a beer. No.

im sure there are more. What are yours?

Volunteering- I’ve volunteered all my life in various committees/charities etc. last year I signed up to my local church committee, utter disaster, arguments at every meeting, bitching, turning up at my house unannounced! No… just no!! I left and it’s the best lesson I’ve ever learned. It’s not worth it and religion is 💩

Giving my all to my job, again committed to everything worked 80+hrs a week massively improved the business. Got absolutely zero thanks for it and now I’ve just given up.. why should I stress and worry about someone else’s business. I go into work do my best and walk out… it’s a relief.

Going places I don’t want to… invited me to your kids part/housewarming/nightout. Nope nothing matters anymore except my peace and the peace of my family.

Oh and Christmas… 1 kids left at home as soon as he hits 16, no more tree and pretending to be happy.

As you can see, I’ve reached an age where people pleasing is 100% over.

I'm not going to be the one to organise coffees/ lunches with friends. They can step up for a change.

I stopped reminding DH about his family birthdays or buying presents. He never asked me to do that at all but I fell into doing it, partly as I do like choosing presents, then decided a few years ago to stop. It's one bit of emotional labour that really isn't my problem.