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Grown up gossips?

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Disappo1nted · 30/11/2025 22:30

I volunteer at a local youth club which my dc also attend. Theyve had problems recently at school and are waiting for a diagnosis, which I wanted to share with one of the lead volunteers in case it becomes relevant at the youth group. One of the leaders I have known for years, not friends but a mum from my dc's school year so I felt she was the best one to open up to. I didn't know any of the other leaders before volunteering at the group, and I havent clicked with any of them particularly but they all seem quite close and know each other from extra curricular activities etc. They're mostly nice and we get on during the meet ups but we just have different interests.
Anyway, the opportunity came to open up to this leader last week. I opened up about some of the struggles we've had over the last few years as well as dcs potential diagnosis. The leader works in the area of special needs etc so I hoped would respect the private nature of what I shared.
Shortly after sharing we went to move around the space and she headed towards 2 other volunteers and started whispering into their ears while sort of laughing. As she moved back I heard her say 'very interesting'. I'm not sure if she knew I was behind her, and while I obviously don't know what was whispered, it felt like it was about me. I'm just so disappointed and I think I'll be taking a step back from volunteering with them soon enough. I won't stop dc going if they're happy to stay obviously.
I'm not sure why I'm posting really, I suppose I'm disappointed in myself for opening up and misjudging this person

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Disappo1nted · 30/11/2025 22:31

Just to add, I name changed in case any of them are on here

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SkaneTos · 30/11/2025 22:36

I sorry to hear that happened to you!
Unfortunately, some people are very gossipy (and undiscreet, and mean).
Don't be disappointed in yourself, be disappointed in her!

GarlicRound · 30/11/2025 22:39

Well, people do gossip, yes. But what makes you so sure she was talking about you?

LoopyLooooo · 30/11/2025 22:42

Oh for goodness sake she could've been whispering and laughing about absolutely ANYTHING.

There's nothing remotely funny about DC awaiting diagnosis, so that should give you a clue.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 30/11/2025 22:43

I think you might be being a bit paranoid OP

OhDonuts · 30/11/2025 22:46

I think she could have been talking about anything, not necessarily you. I can’t imagine somebody laughing about a child’s struggles.

I don’t like gossipy people and avoid them at all costs. You can usually tell someone is a gossip if they talk about others negatively to you, especially if they talk about people you don’t know very well.

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