Confidentiàĺity

[PerkyOchrePeer]

Not sure what to do. Someone i dont know very well at all told me about a family rift. I saw this person's sister and mentioned that I was sorry about the rift and that I understood because I had been through something similar. The sister was very grateful for my concern and said thank you. However the person who told me didn't like me speaking to her sister as she said what she told me was between her and me and confidential. My issue is that her sister being her sister knew all about the rift so I wasn't renting something the sister knew nothing about and she was grateful that I was showing sympathy based on my own experience.

Did I do anything wrong by talking to the sister

Agreed. Totally inappropriate

Yup. And no, I didn’t search. Her posts are just very recognisable in their tone and themes.

Maybe you feel you cannot take the blame, but you should.

If I had an issue with a member of my family and someone heard about it abd xane to me and said they were sorry etc, I would be genuinely grateful for their support. I have had family issues and not been in contact with members of my family for various reasons and it's not until you meet someone who has gone through the same thing that you realise that they really understand d your situation. This is why I spoke to the sister.

This was so not your place to interfere.

Confiding in someone you hardly know is generally considered risky

Found this online. I am wary of people who do think in haste. This person has recently got married but she had relationship issues and the person who was going to marry them said they were not ready to Wed due to issues. Her fiance admitted they had difficulties in their relationship and if that was me I would not marry until I had worked out my relationship issues. I saw them together. They dont look like a happily married newly Wed couple. I think they married in haste.

Not sure I want to see either of them again

I doubt that either of them want to see you again, so that would be a win-win.

Why have you posted this twice? How is it in any way relevant to you being indiscreet about an acquaintance’s family rift?

If you barely know this person, under what circumstances were they telling you this in the first place?

As for saying something to the sister - you were gossiping. You wanted her to know you know ALL about her situation. You weren’t trying to be kind, no matter what you tell yourself.