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What are your self care tips?

19 replies

OhBobbins · 29/11/2025 13:55

Interested to hear your favourite self care tips. Do you have a hobby, a favourite way to relax, an inexpensive purchase (candles, snacks, entertainment etc), a non-negotiatable 'me-time' activity?

There's so much talk of self care but when I chat to family/friends it seems so few people can actually name the ways they look after their physical and mental health.

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NewMe2024 · 29/11/2025 13:56

Unapologetic napping.

bemuto19 · 29/11/2025 13:58

Being comfortable saying no.

GuerrillaMyse · 29/11/2025 14:03

For me if I'm really exhausted it'll be pyjama days. I shower late, put on a clean pair, get back into bed, change into a fresh pair for night time and read or watch Netflix, and nap.

Usually it's moisturise, Epsom salt baths with a bath oil, cooking some nutritious meals for the freezer, painting my nails. Connecting with nature like with a walk.

Or I just take an hour uninterrupted to nap & relax after work so I don't burn out. When I can afford to I like booking a massage.

LML1989AL · 29/11/2025 20:17

A take-away on a Sunday night (far superior to a Friday/Saturday night take-away).
A drive-thru coffee twice a week, to coincide with my two favourite podcasts releasing their weekly episodes (whilst baby sleeps in the car)
Attending book club once a month (even if I haven’t read the book)
Every couple of months we take a day trip to the seaside, regardless of weather & each fish & chips (with lashings or salt & vinegar)

Someone has already said it, but saying “no” to people/plans/requests when I just don’t have the time (would previously stretch myself far to thin)

LemograssLollipop · 29/11/2025 20:34

I love a home day pottering, making myself breakfast, lovely shower, a walk and a chilled meal. Time to read, listen to music whatever I feel like doing with no pressure to be anywhere

Lookingforthejoy · 29/11/2025 20:37

I’m crap at it at the moment.
It’s the boring stuff a parent should be making sure a chil does, healthy eating, good sleep routine, exercise, time with friends, down time, suitable clean clothes and shoes, not too much screen time and medical appointments as needed.

RustyShackIeford · 29/11/2025 20:39

I read something lately that changed my life.

It was basically- “self-care isn’t always a bubble bath or nice candle, sometimes it’s responding to that email you’ve been putting off for days”.

LadyKenya · 29/11/2025 20:40

Eating as well as I can afford to. Making sure that I get enough sleep.

RidingMyBike · 29/11/2025 20:41

Saying no to as much as possible.

Carving out time for reading or crafting, even if it’s only a few minutes.

Trying to spend more time outside

JacknDiane · 29/11/2025 20:53

A cold walk outside in the wind, when im well wrapped up.

TootsMaHoots · 29/11/2025 21:00

Don’t put yourself at the bottom.

Financial · 29/11/2025 21:02

Daily:
Exercise - even just a walk
1min Plank
Pamper (eyebrows or nails etc)
Tepe Sticks
Wordle
Read

Checknotmymate · 29/11/2025 21:03

Ignoring the "we need helpers for the Xmas bake sale" appeals on the class WhatsApp.

Hendersso · 29/11/2025 21:14

Another vote to say no when it doesn’t suit
nails/massage
love me time and pottering in peace at home occasionally
also enjoy a swim

familyissues12345 · 29/11/2025 21:15

In true MN style - No is a whole sentence!

YelramBob · 29/11/2025 21:17

Saying no to things I don't want to do and not giving a reason why. Just saying 'I can't make it, sorry but have a great time' is so liberating.

MaidOfSteel · 29/11/2025 21:25

Not putting up with rudeness or poor service anymore. It’s very liberating and has been great for my mental health.

OhBobbins · 29/11/2025 23:57

Love these and completely agree with everyone saying that no is one of the most liberating words you can use for self care / preservation.

I've been trying to work on this recently. I have a habit of saying maybe and being guilted into doing whatever the request was, then feeling overwhelmed. It's a skill but 'no, sorry that won't work for me' is freeing.

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WilfredsPies · 30/11/2025 02:56

Saying ‘No, sorry’ to some things I don’t want to do, but reminding myself how certain people make me feel. I might not really want to go out, but I know that I’ll come home feeling positive and having spent a couple of hours just cackling with my friends, lifting each other up.

I go to the sea. I find it calms me like nowhere else and I feel completely energised just by listening to the waves come in. If it’s chucking it down then I’ll sit in the car or in a shelter with a flask of hot chocolate. If it’s dry then I’ll be on the sand or shingle. I could be there for hours.

I have a quick shower so I’m not sitting in my own dirt, then a bubble bath that’s as hot as I can bear it. A good book (not something too light, but something you need to concentrate on), a bacon sandwich ( a bacon sandwich in the bath tastes vastly superior to a bacon sandwich at any other time. You’ve just got to have a plate big enough to catch the crumbs) and regular top ups with hot, hot water and more bubbles. Then out to put on clean pyjamas and get into a freshly changed bed.

My hobbies. I’m a crafter, I sew, I paint, I knit etc, so I choose something that requires all of my concentration, so there is no room in my brain to be thinking about anything else. And the feeling of creating something you’re proud of gets me through a few more days of a soul destroying job.

Spending time with children I love. Same as hobbies; it’s impossible to think about your own issues when a three year old wants you to play pirates with him.

Physically… I do my nails.

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