Vitriol on mumsnet

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I know there is a thread on this every week but I’m contributing another.

Wtf has happened to this site?? It used to be a supportive, kind community of women. We used to support each other through hard times - divorce, health concerns, blended families, affairs - and now all this site has become is a place to take the proverbial mask off and let rip on people seeking genuine advice!

I’ve seen three threads this morning where as usual the first comment sets the tone of nastiness and then everyone piles on. People taking comments out of context, name calling, rudeness and some just downright cruel comments.

Was it Covid? What happened? Makes me so sad and I will probably not come back after this post which is a shame as I’ve been a lurker for a decade and had a couple of different accounts over the years.

This is what has stopped me posting. Can’t be bothered with the responses

I agree. Mumsnet could do with having some / higher standards.
By all means have a view but how you express it matters.
Sometimes the language is vile, thoughtless, just unkind.
I wonder how many people Mumsnet have lost over the years because people leave and don't come back because of it. Or how many don't join because of the reputation?

Yes it's grim isn't it. Some very unhappy people on here who can't wait to lash out at others, its actually really sad.

I think the problem is that MN doesn’t have anyone reading threads on a regular basis so they don’t have a clue what’s going on.

That's really not a realistic expectation. It's up to readers to report unpleasantness. I reported two really unpleasant posts yesterday - not directed at me - and they were both deleted within minutes.

Well I reported one of dubious intent today and it’s still there which is why I rarely get involved in any discussions now. It’s not worth the hassle. I’ll stick to Telly Addicts

I was reading a thread from 2012 via googling an issue, and it was so much friendlier. I can’t remember what it was about specifically but I read the OP thinking of what the replies would be through today’s lens - ‘don’t be so stupid op’ ‘is that all you have to worry about?’ etc - but the replies were so supportive and reassuring and kindly funny. I was MNer back then, it was like a totally different place.

People are so keen to jump others and assert their righteousness and intelligence over someone else. Its so aggressive.

“MNHQ really do need to do something about the general tone/ culture of the site to prevent all the sane people from just leaving or avoiding huge swathes of the.site”

Apologies for copying and pasting but I fully agree with this. It feels like a toxic workplace with management that aren’t doing much to address the toxicity.

There are too many posts where people accuse others of things they didn’t say in a really exaggerated way.

Like for example if someone says I never wear trousers they reply so you think women shouldn’t wear trousers then - but usually about more divisive subjects than clothes.

It’s tiresome.

OP, I totally agree with you, it’s horrible and does sometimes impact on my decision to post or not.

Earlier in the week, the responses of one poster to the OP, were rude to the extreme and I called them out. As did a few other PPs. We must report but let’s also directly call them out. They soon disappear.

I know this is not an option for all PPs, due to vulnerability and fear but if the trolls
see that they will be challenged directly, they may think twice.

You know who you are. Stop it!

I report as much as I can - mostly scams not the vitriol and jumping on ops but there are lots I can't report because they are links as the title, I'm surprised @BeckyAMumsnet Mumsnet can't stop links as a title, I can't/won't click on them to report obviously