What I really want for my birthday and Christmas is for no one to ask me what I want for my birthday and Christmas.

[QueenStevie]

I am so fed up. My birthday is in December and obviously Christmas. I spend the whole of November dealing with people asking what I/DH/DD/the postman/the cat etc want for Christmas (and my birthday). I'm really not difficult to buy for, nor am I spoiled or picky. I just want someone to use the brains they were born with and give me some peace.

In the kindest way I think you need to give your head a wobble, yes it’s annoying when the people who love/care for you can’t be arsed to “think” of a gift, but really it’s not the end of the world.

Maybe create an Amazon wish list, send the link to those who pester you the most. You can update it every November

It’s nice that people care to ask. Some will get nothing.

I agree with you OP. It takes half the joy out of it. We have enough mental load without having to think of our own gift and consider what’s appropriate / within budget / logistically possible etc etc.

I’m the same, I’ve married and bred very unimaginative people. I’ve even been asked to buy it for them (my son in his late teens). Thankfully he’s improved since then!

Every year I hope that all my offspring will have listened sufficiently to my conversations throughout the year to know what to get me for my birthday (also not long before Christmas) and Christmas, and every year I am asked what I want. One day I'm going to say 'you remember when we went into town and I pointed at all the things I liked? Well, one of those,' or 'when I said I was going to take up (new hobby) were you listening at all?'

Fortunately they are very good at present buying and I only have to steer them briefly in the right direction before they take off and find me things I would like, but I do sometimes wonder if they listen to anything I say...

The only person who ever gives me a present is my partner and before I met him nobody gave me a present.

I disagree with this so strongly. It’s a woman thing, I think: guess what I want but I’ll sulk if you get it wrong. Just ask for what you want.

Not quite the same as I usually have some ideas for me and am happy to share, but I hate, hate, hate everyone asking me what my DC want. I get it from my side of the family, and DH’s side of the family. They’re also old enough to be asked themselves. And why do people ask me?? Fair enough my side, but DH’s side should ask him if they’re not gonna ask the kids.

I LOVE Christmas but one thing that really overwhelms me is pretty much all of the organisation is left to me.

We love wishlists in our house. Normally there is enough on it for people to choose something which is still a surprise.

We start in October or so and just add on until December.

We had years with gifts which weren't really what I wanted/would have asked for so it's a lot nicer than being disappointed.

Too many people want to buy me presents.
My wallet's too small for my Fifties.
And my diamond shoes are too tight.

Seriously though OP, just make a list and hand it out to all of these well wishers.

My birthday and Christmas fall on the same day. I'm ok with people asking me what I want. The way I see it is it's bad enough thinking what to get when there is just 1 present to get, let alone 2.

Yanbu

It's absolutely soul destroying

I have done an Amazon wishlist and sent it to MIL weeks ago (at her request). This week she phoned DH several times whilst he was at work (so much so that he thought something serious had happened) to ask him what I would like for my birthday. He didn't know 🙈 so she then phoned me to ask me. She actually said, "Would you like something off your wish list?" 🙈🙈🙈 This is what prompted my post.

And yes, i also get asked what everyone else wants and often if I will just order it for them and when it is DH and DD's birthday, they then ask me again. It is really just another mental load thing and I don't have the capacity.