Feel like a bad mum

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Toddler has a virus and been poorly the last few days with a cough and rash. I was awake most of the night with him. Husband has taken him to A&E to get checked over as we feel he is sucking in at his ribs and starting to work hard at his breathing. I’ve stayed at home with eldest.My husband is from a medical background and I feel he will advocate more whilst, I feel extremely anxious and exhausted tonight. However, now I feel guilty and a terrible mum. I’ve always taken them to A&E, but my eldest was crying for me and wanted me to stay at home. Have I done the right thing? Feeling panicky and anxious as toddler was hospitalised at age 3 months with RSV this time last year and feel it’s all happening again.

Your DH can manage the A&E visit & both your children are getting their needs met and have been put first. That makes you a great mum.

I get it's hard it is to let them go. DH took our eldest to A&E a couple of times while I stayed with DD, who is very clingy to me. It's difficult to not be there, but you just have to do what works at the time.

Of course you're not a bad mum!

Both your children are being cared for.
It sounds as though your DH is perfectly capable of dealing with A&E, so there was no reason for him not to do it.

Being a good mum involves looking after yourself too.