Trauma bonding… how to break it

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Please can I have some useful tips… really struggling. Breaking the trauma bond I feel like I’m coming off a substance misuse and with both my babies it’s hard. I have been ok recently but tonight I’m going into overdrive withdrawals.

Maybe you should post on the relationships board OP.

OP I strongly suggest professional input who can guide you through why you feel this way

It is very very. Hard to break this bond

Your mind my think back to all the seemingly good times and you may forget some of the horrendous stuff

Did social services get involved?

Can you walk women's aid in the morning ?

Also look into the freedom programme be it online or wherever is soonest

Sorry it has been so hard

Please put yourself and the kids first

It sounds like if you go back you will be in lots of danger !!!

It’s the same as any addiction- you do it moment by moment. Know that the urge will pass, you just have to get through peak urge and it will taper off. A list of all the awful horrible stuff can help, read it when when you’re tempted until the urge passes.

Also a list of what you want in the future, an affirmation of the healthy love you’re inviting into your life when you’re healed.

Read The Betrayal Bond by Patrick Carnes.

It is a form of addiction. Remember that your body and mind are craving what is familiar to them, even if that is pain.

Try to identify your triggers and find a healthier alternative. Call a friend, watch a show you love, exercise, whatever feels good for you.

Above all, remember you deserve peace.

Good luck x

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