I have an ex colleague constantly messaging me, I don’t want to remain friends. She gossips about me to others, made light of difficult things I went through & poor health, & constantly oversteps. Eg wanting to know how relatives died when I had a bereavement; wanting to know how much I’m getting paid and how I’m affording finances etc.
She isn’t pleasant to spend time with, I find myself feeling uncomfortable and anticipating her asking intrusive questions. I also don’t feel she takes an interest in me as opposed to what I can do for her if that makes sense.
the last time I saw her, she was in a mood all night and was constantly snapping at me. I offered to drive her home after the event, but she said she’ll get the train and made a big deal about how unsafe getting the train at night is and how late she will be getting home and say it’s my fault if anything happens to her. Again she refused the offer of a lift home, and I even offered to pay for a taxi which she rejected. It felt like drama over nothing and like I was being guilt-tripped in case anything happened to her.
I started ignoring her text messages, but now she’s playing this rhetoric of wanting to know if I’m “safe” and has been messaging me weekly asking if I’m okay. How would you approach this?