Thread for those struggling at this time of year

[Lostlittlegirl]

Shan't bore you all with a pity party. Basically I lost my beloved mum at the end of 2023. I had an awful time with my sibling regarding mums house and sorting out the will and possessions etc. That is finally resolved and rather than feeling relief, I just feel crushing sadness and loneliness. I miss my mum so desperately. She was the only person to love me unconditionally. I have a partner of 30 years and a lovely adult DS but I just feel that my life is now pointless.

Mum made Christmas so special but now I can't bear the thought of it without her. The future is something I can't get my head around. I have no friends, a WFH job that pays well but I do not enjoy one bit. My dog of 15 years died this year. I'm lost.

Hi op I've had very similar.

Your mum really wouldn't want you to waste your precious time here. She would want you to enjoy life as much as you can.

You can make Xmas special for yourself ,partner and your son. And do it in memory and honour of her.

I understand OP, take a squeeze man.

Do you have to do your usual Christmas? I think doing the thing we're used too and having that gap there won't help.

The firsts are hard but I think the seconds are harder in some way. Losing your pet will have brought it all to the surface fresh, stuff that you hadn't processed yet. Losing a loved dog when you're grieving can be the final straw for our emotions. Our brains are very good at protecting us for a bit.

It's hard to remember Christmases of the past, with parents, grandparents, uncles etc. They are all gone now and I feel guilty that my DS only has us two.

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this.
I am spending my first Christmas alone this year as my mum died in January. I don't have a partner or children.
One thing I am planning is to do Christmas slightly differently, as in not attempt to create a facsimile of a family Christmas. Have a nice, quiet day but still try to enjoy.
I am very lucky in that my two dogs are still alive. Would you consider getting another dog? I know they're not replaceable, but a new relationship with a new dog might bring you some joy and help you feel less alone.

Sorry for your loss. I think another dog would help. I'm not sure how to go about finding one. I would like a female rescue dog.

Thank you.
Dogs are life, in my opinion.
Can you Google rescue centres near you? They are usually pretty full. A new dog .might bring you some hope for the future xx

Thank you.
Dogs are life, in my opinion.
Can you Google rescue centres near you? They are usually pretty full. A new dog .might bring you some hope for the future xx

There are a couple. I will take a look. Hope you have a peaceful Christmas with your lovely doggos

Thank you so much
I hope you find a lovely rescue companion so you can start looking forward a little, despite your grief. 💐

I came on to say the same as has already been said ..
You need a house horse ,a noodle
For sure ,they are the most loving chilled dogs ever .
They laze on the sofa and love a long walk .
And so many need homes after they retire from racing

Whittinghan kennels 01992893734
Have a dog named magic ,who was returned after rehoming because he is scared of men,and needs a nice quiet female only home
He could be perfect for you .
I only know because I was looking myself xx