So anxious! How can I stop the cycle

[Lashana]

I’m fine as long as life goes along ok. If something comes along to upset the balance I just spiral. Take for instance this week. DS had a minor car bump (not his fault) and he’s absolutely fine. Superficial damage to his car but will need insurance.

i have felt wired and anxious since. I cannot stop overthinking every scenario - what happens if the other driver does not admit liability (he reversed into my son). What if they can’t prove it? I’m so completely wound up and I just cannot relax. I try to think rationally but can’t.

It’s the same if something goes wrong in work or in the house. I have no resilience. This is something that has happened over the past 5/7 years I suppose, I’m now 52 and peri.

Any tips? I need to relax but I’m so tense and uptight all the time at the moment. I’m shaky and feel full of adrenaline, hardly slept since the bump it’s ridiculous.

I have no advice op but following with interest. I’m 53 and in the last 5 years my resilience for anything has disappeared also

All I can say is that once you are post menopausal you stop giving a fuck about pretty much everything.

On the surface I don’t give any fucks. Some areas of my life I’m really ‘could care less’ about but then some things just push me over the edge. No reason for me to be quite so anxious over this small event. I’ve blown it up into a huge issue in my mind and can’t snap out of it.

It’s the same if something goes wrong in work or in the house. I have no resilience. This is something that has happened over the past 5/7 years I suppose, I’m now 52 and peri.

id go and talk to your gp about it, I very much think its the shift in hormones and it might be something a low does of anti depressant can be given for that you only take when something happens - ask if there is something that would fit that bill as a medication.

Or take up some really excessive cardio like spin or running, cycling as that has helped me in the main

I’ve blown it up into a huge issue in my mind and can’t snap out of it.
OP

writing it down in a book and shutting the book might help?

also remember - if money can fix it, its not to be worried about as there is a solution

Sorry to say I'm the same. Zero resiliance, and yet I used to be the most resiliant person that everyone else knew! I'm 58 and it's not getting better, although I'm not helped by not being allowed HRT as I had breast cancer a few years ago.

I am exactly the same and started a thread a month or so ago. My username - I’m fine as long as all straws stay in place to keep the marbles safe, but pull one straw out and my marbles fall. Due to this I have lost my job which means I can’t pay my rent. I haven’t left the house for over 2 weeks. I can’t talk to anybody about what is going through my head. Sorry no advice op but every sympathy. It’s horrible living in this state. No way out of it because I know it will happen again.