Do people overshare about their relationships or am I just more private?

[Alyah]

A friend of mine tells her friends absolutely everything about her relationship. Every little argument every tiny issue even really personal stuff that I’d never dream of sharing. She thinks it helps her feel better but I can’t help feeling a bit sorry for her partner because he has no idea his life is being talked about in that much detail.
I’m not against chatting things through but I’ve always felt some things should stay between the two people involved. Now I’m wondering if I’m just more private than most and this is completely normal these days.

I think that it’s best to talk as it might help someone out of a domestic abuse situation. You can’t always see it when you’re in it.

think you’re definitely not alone in wanting to keep some parts of a relationship private. Everyone has a different comfort level, but some people really do share every detail without thinking about how it affects the other person. Talking things through can be helpful, but there’s a line between getting support and turning the relationship into a group discussion.
It sounds like you just prefer a bit more privacy, which is completely normal. Not everyone needs to share everything to feel better, and it doesn’t mean you’re closed off.

Totally agree what goes on with me and my hubby is between me and my hubby. Just because a person hears one side of an argument or dispute doesn't make the partner being talked about wrong either. Would never do it as also emotions and people judge circumstances that may not be fully given to them etc etc...Ive got plenty to talk about other than my relationship lol

I think it happens a lot, but that does not make it right for everyone. Some people process by talking everything through out loud. Social media and group chats make it easier to share too much without thinking about the other person.
If it bothers you, it is fine to be more private. You can gently say you do not want to hear certain details, or steer the conversation to something else when it starts to go too far. If your friend is sharing things that could hurt their partner or that feel wrong to you, you can say that you are not comfortable being part of that.
Also check whether your friend wants advice or just needs to vent. If it is venting, a short, kind boundary works. If they want help, suggest they talk to their partner or a professional rather than broadcasting everything to the group.

I get what you mean about people only hearing one side and forming an opinion. That’s kind of what worries me with my friend because once she’s vented to everyone it feels like the whole situation is out there even if things are fine again the next day. I’m not trying to be secretive but I just don’t really want a crowd involved in normal relationship ups and downs.