Hi- just wanted to see if anyone had any advice or what they thought… im not sure if I should be concerned about my partner.
we have been together half a year & Hes a brilliant partner. He surprises me with gifts and treats me nicely, he is kind caring the whole shebang & Hes also someone I can 100% be myself around. We have had brilliant times together and see each other all the time basically. I am however wondering about his well-being now.
He holds down a job & his own home, well groomed etc but does smoke a lot.
A few days ago he said he ended up in hospital as his heart was racing he was having pain and he had to go to hospital. From what he was describing it sounded like a panic attack, everyone else such as his mother thought so but obviously I can’t say for sure. Hospital said his constant smoking and consumption of energy drinks have made his blood pressure a bit high and he needs to make better choices. This ties into my next point- we made plans on the telephone today to meet in town for shopping. He never turned up I called like a stalker, texted etc before sitting in a Costa for a nice drink and something to eat then I realised he wasn’t coming and turned up at his for a welfare check. He answered the door fully clothed , shoes on too and said he was asleep the whole time and phone was on silent which I believe. Hes currently in bed asleep.
I am just wondering if I should be concerned about his physical and mental well-being. Hes prone to depression & is on meds. His house has been an absolute mess (sorry to say but absolutely no judgement from me) but yesterday I washed up for him and helped him clean he had a sudden flush of inspiration and wanted his place clean and tidy which was great.
I don’t know if I should be concerned about him…. I have been asking him if I can check his blood pressure just to make sure he’s fine and check him but he always refuses.
what do I do? I feel im being very generous/muggy but I care for him a lot and dont know if I should be concerned/ how to go about it
thank you