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Wwyd - DS school friend issues

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Whoknowswherewhen · 17/11/2025 09:33

Need some advice on issue with a school friend for DS (7). No judgement please as I already feel extremely anxious over this and school life generally (many reasons but I just feel so excluded from the school mums).

DS has a friend who in the last year was teasing him a lot, getting others to tease and taunt him and bordering on bullying. That child got in trouble a few times with the teachers and I encouraged other friendships. When things got out of hand with reports from my son about being picked on a lot by this child, I flagged to the school so they could address it. Obviously I don't know what the school said but they just told me they have spoken to the parents. The child's mum obviously didn't like that and she stopped talking to me. Just scowled at me whenever I saw her. However recently my son has still gravitated towards that child and from what I can see they play nice together again. The mum still ignores me and I feel bad for my son as I feel he really likes this friend and I would like to be able to be on good terms to facilitate the friendship and have play dates etc. DS does have some friends but we struggle to fit in socially it seems and have hardly any invites for playdates.

Wwyd? Should I reach out to the mum and make peace with her? Or should I leave it and let my child be friendly at school and no need to socialise outside of school? DS has a handful of friends but does seem to like this friend a lot and they play together everyday.

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Colourbrain · 17/11/2025 10:43

For now, I would just be breezily friendly and if she ignores you then just let it go. Be the bigger adult in this situation. Do not bring up what is happening at school, any issues just address them with school, do not get into anything with that parent. It will only lead to conflict.

Whoknowswherewhen · 17/11/2025 13:27

I like that - breezily friendly. That's probably for the best.

Hopeful bump as I'd really like to hear what others will do. I generally struggle with playground politics and I get so anxious over things like this.

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TheGirlattheBack · 17/11/2025 13:43

I wouldn’t encourage your son to play with this child out of school. Kids friendships can be very fluid at primary school. They are friends at the moment but the child might revert back to picking on your DS at some point. Keep a healthy boundary of friends at school only for this one.

I agree with PP a breezy hello to the ghastly mum.

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