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slet · 17/11/2025 08:27

I have a good friend who I saw over the weekend. We had a lovely time when we met up but she made one teeny tiny little comment which has been playing on my mind…..basically we used to work together years ago and do the same job. Now we longer work together but have moved on and are in related fields. She made a passing comment about how something we do in my field makes it inconvenient for her in hers….it wasn’t really personal or aimed at me at all, but it got my back up a bit.

since then, in my head this has spiralled, and I have gone on to have an imaginary row in my head with my friend about how she is judging my work, etc etc. I mentioned this to dh, who was there at the weekend, and he has said I am nuts, she didn’t mean anything of the sort, I am reading too much into it, etc. and I think he is probably right, but I seem to do this a lot where I overthink things and get paranoid about what people think of me. Does any one else do this and know how I can stop it?

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ShamrockShenanigans · 17/11/2025 12:33

The only way you can stop having imaginary rows in your head, is to speak up at the time.

You should've gently questioned/challenged her about it, especially as you say she's a good friend.

But since you didn't, you now have nowhere for that energy to go.

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