I was chatting to a guy that my friend sort of introduced me to. He messaged me. We spoke back and fourth for a while. Had a good chat, seemed nice. She knows him at a distance. Anyway, we spoke on the phone a few weeks ago and he said if it was to be a think I’d have to move for him and he’s not that close. I said yeah fair maybe I’d consider it. Knowing in my gut I probably couldn’t. He asked over the phone if that distance was a major issue and I said ok no it’s not don’t worry we could work round it, my ex bf lived the same distance a long while ago so the motorway journeys were second nature. He asked if I still felt a certain way for him. I said no it’s just we’re adults and I’m 30 ans we all have a history. Doesn’t mean we don’t move on. Anyway, he was hot and cold to me after that. He then suggested a date and didn’t really text me.
my friend bumped into him at an event and she’s seen me get upset over this so she said I went up to him and asked what’s the issue. I said and what did he say. She responded “he said it the distance and he drafted a message to send you to say sorry. You’re lovely but the distance is a problem” now my issue is. Why would you: talk to a woman in the first place when you knew of the distance, discuss future plans, spend ages on the phone, text me and suggest dates?
None of it adds up. If I didn’t like the distance I’d say no to begin with? I think there is something else. Thoughts?