Husband having an attitude after cleaning and being helpful

[Yuropean]

I do most of the cleaning, washing and family organising.

My dh is currently in college 2 days a week and not working. He also does the school run.

I’m working after coming back from maternity leave.

I’m stressed out and he knows it. Today he woke up and cleaned everything, washed all the clothes. Done the house up nice. But now he has an attitude. Is this what self-righteousness is?

He keeps mentioning that he tidied up, I’m holding myself down saying. I know but I do this every fucking day.

Getting ready to go outside and I ask him to put the babies jacket and shoes on he says I can do it after I’ve finished getting ready as he has cleaned today.

He is snappy and giving one word answers. I thanked him this morning after he cleaned but it’s like he wants more.

You have a DH problem, not a communication problem.
You're supporting him and providing for your family, while he retrains. He should be making a comparable contribution to your lives.
This is one of the main reasons I am no longer interested in living with a man ever again.
You should read Zawn Villiers 'Liberating Motherhood' on Substack. It's so helpful.
You deserve more. Don't cave in! X

Your husband is a real twat.
He clearly does very little if he needs praising.
Think long and hard before having more children with this loser.

I never had a problem really praising an adult for doing stuff that needed doing. I always thought of it as training, like a puppy or toddler. They get the reward and I have less to do. A win/win for me.
Will he be job hunting @Yuropean ? Have you had a really good talk about division of responsibilities and economics?

He thinks he's done you a massive favour and wants to be heaped with praise. What a twat.

Why are you doing most of the work at home, while also working outside of the home, if he’s studying 2 days a week. You need a conversation with him about joint responsibilities and division of labour.

Ugh, my exH was like this. He kept score of everything, money, presents and praise!

He clearly sees the housework as your job and because he’s done one whole morning of it, he sees himself as being the great hero taking on someone else’s work whilst also resenting you for him having to do dirty woman work. He’s a prick basically.