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chloe1243 · 12/11/2025 19:29

Please be aware this may be sensitive to some, so please do not continue to read if you don’t want to read about terminations.
I recently found out im pregnant. Can’t be no more than 8 weeks going by dates. I took the morning after pill on the 15th of October and have since found myself in this position.
I am getting an abortion, due to personal reasons.
I have chosen to go with a surgical removal as I don’t think mentally I’ll be able to come home with tablets and pass at home. I have also spoken to the father, who has done nothing but support my decision as they feel the same. I suppose I’m writing this because 1- is like to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what to except? I did read the website from the facility, I’ve chosen to go with and although it has been extremely helpful, I’d just like to hear others experiences, before, during and after the procedure.
I don’t feel like this has mentally affected me but it could. I suppose I feel so bad for the dad, as he isn’t a parent but a FWB’s that I’ve been seeing for two plus years. Even though he has been supportive I can’t help but feel like this may take a toll on him, I’ve asked him and he claims he’s fine and he’s here to support me, offered to take time off work to take me to appointments etc but I just can’t help but feel like this is something quite massive. I already have two children, he has none and we’re both 26. I know he wants kids and to settle down in the future but is just enjoying his life whilst he can and I’m the same.
Has anyone had a partner who has shared how they felt during this time?

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/11/2025 19:32

Honestly OP he’s said it’s fine, so it’s best to just trust that and leave him be, your decision won’t change so why push him to talk more if he doesn’t want to? He’s doing the decent thing and not making it about him. Also he’s really young so it makes perfect sense that he’s ok with it, he’s got loads of time to have kids in the future. It may well just not be that huge for him. I hope it all goes ok for you OP

chloe1243 · 13/11/2025 16:07

I haven’t questioned him further, I did leave it at how he expressed it. I just can’t help but feel selfish? If that’s the right word that I haven’t asked how he truly feels. I don’t want him opinion to change as I am very set on the fact of having a termination. Maybe it’s my brain going 100 mph. But thank you, I appreciate the feedback.

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Rew1234 · 07/12/2025 13:14

Hi, how quickly did you get an appointment for the surgical abortion after initial assessment? Thanks x

chloe1243 · 07/12/2025 23:02

Quite quickly! It was a week, as they had to wait for me to be 6 weeks. X

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fishtank12345 · 07/12/2025 23:05

All I can add is, a friend of the family had an abortion and regretted it so bad she had another baby quite quickly after.

fishtank12345 · 07/12/2025 23:07

chloe1243 · 13/11/2025 16:07

I haven’t questioned him further, I did leave it at how he expressed it. I just can’t help but feel selfish? If that’s the right word that I haven’t asked how he truly feels. I don’t want him opinion to change as I am very set on the fact of having a termination. Maybe it’s my brain going 100 mph. But thank you, I appreciate the feedback.

had not seen the update...

Wobblylegs1 · 07/12/2025 23:36

How strange that all the posters on this thread have the same numbers after their names?
Bots?
Anyway, if you’re genuine OP, I wish you all the best. Not an experience I have had, but two friends of mine did in their 20s and to my knowledge they never looked back. Very clear decision for them at the time. They have since gone in to have planned families in their 30s and are very happy.

chloe1243 · 09/12/2025 07:17

fishtank12345 · 07/12/2025 23:05

All I can add is, a friend of the family had an abortion and regretted it so bad she had another baby quite quickly after.

It’s been over a week now & I couldn’t be happier with my choice. If you read the original post, I’m already a parent.

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chloe1243 · 09/12/2025 07:19

Wobblylegs1 · 07/12/2025 23:36

How strange that all the posters on this thread have the same numbers after their names?
Bots?
Anyway, if you’re genuine OP, I wish you all the best. Not an experience I have had, but two friends of mine did in their 20s and to my knowledge they never looked back. Very clear decision for them at the time. They have since gone in to have planned families in their 30s and are very happy.

Can assure you I’m not a bot, what a silly thing of you to say. Already have a family of my own, gave no intentions to grow my little family.

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