If you are young-ish grandmother, how did you feel about being called Nanny, Granny and Grandma…

[Ceramekins]

DD is 26, no babies on the horizon (like so many girls, she cannot find a decent guy) but I have a day off and time to ponder…

I am youthful 47, small and baby faced with a pixie cut, we have often being referred to as siblings by strangers, to the point of once being refused wine in Asda without ID few years back and given student tickets on a bus in my home country.

DM was similar age when I had DD, she was an unplanned baby and DM had a meltdown about being too young to be a Babushka. So, she has requested that she is known by her first name and this is how DD refers her to date. I was too busy freaking out about the rest of my life to care at that time…

Now, if I had a DG, I would shout about it to the world, but yet I kind of see DM’ point, I just don’t come across like a Grannie. MIL became first time Nan aged 78, so that worked. Or does the new title grow on you pretty quickly with the new status? Would love to hear your stories…

I was a grandparent at 40 and really didn't like granny etc as I felt I was too young for those names, so picked a foreign name with the same meaning but not as jarring to me. I was thinking about the name situation and it was actually my daughter in law and son who said I was too young for those names so what would I like to be called. We all had a look online and were all happy with the name picked. It was really lovely they thought of me and we all collectively picked the name. Sorry not going to say the name on here as its outing.

My dgm was my favourite person as a dc... And really until she died when I was 27. I was proud to be Grandma at 45. Again at 54....

When I was at school, one of my friend's grandmas demanded she be called "mum" (we're up north, so her actual mum was called mam) because she thought she was too young for grandma (she wasn't, at all). It was embarrassing all around, and my poor friend was especially mortified by it. I've always remembered that, so I just own being called grandma.

I just don’t come across like a Grannie.

That suggests your own internalised ageism more than anything. I mean, there are 35 year old grandmothers. You're just as much a grandmother whether you're a 30something, perfect-bodied climbing instructor with a 22 year old boyfriend or an octogenarian who keeps used tissues up her cardigan sleeves and potters.

It just means your child has had a child. It doesn't imply anything about your age, or your appearance, or your haircut.

'Granny' here.
(DD2 was 27 when she had my dgs ) I must admit I wasn't that keen on being Granny and initially fancied something a bit less 'old' sounding.
But... in my family it's Granny, and the next one up becomes Gran-Gran (great Granny) and my daughter naturally followed the pattern!

And NOTHING beats 'I love you Granny' from my dgs ...now 4. I AM a granny, a fit healthy one who until I quit colouring my hair a couple of years ago was sometimes mistaken for an older Mum... I'm Granny and I love it, because it names the relationship between me and my precious grandchildren (now two of, who I look after!)

I will never be a grandmother but am a step one. I'm just called by my first name.

It's traditional where i am to be a nana or grandma. They come in all shapes and sizes from 30s-70s.
No one cares how old you are, grandchildren are a blessing.

I was 42 when my granddaughter was born. My own DD was 20 months.

I never really thought about what I would be called.
But I was 1 of 6 Nannies as she had 2 GM, 3 GGM and 1 amazing GGGM!

First time gran at 50, now 10 years later I have several GC. I'm known as a completely different name which started with my first GC who invented it when she started talking. It's stuck and now all my GC and, weirdly all their friends, call me this

I was a relatively young grandmother at just turned 43. I had my DD when I was 19 and she had her DD at 23. I was absolutely over the moon to become a grandmother as my DD had said all through her teenage years that she didn't want children. To start off with I was called 'nanny',but once DGD got to her teens that changed to 'nan' or 'nanna'. Like you OP my DD and I were sometimes mistaken for sisters (even twins at times!). I know that 19 years is not a massive age gap between mother and daughter,but I wouldn't have said we look close enough in age to be siblings! Very flattering for me admittedly,not so much for DD!

I first became a grandparent 13 years ago and chose to be Grandma because
a) I wanted to redefine the stereotype of a white haired elderly lady sitting under a tartan blanket and b) Who wouldn’t want a name that starts with the word Grand! 🤣🤣

Wow GGGM that's amazing did you all have children fairly young ?

A great great grandmother! Goodness that’s amazing, What an incredible link with history

I was 51 when my gd was born. I didn't like Nan/ nanny etc. I actually wanted to be Granny but dd refused.
I ended up being Nonna which I love.

Funny, I am a grandma at 43 and if you screw your eyes up I could pass for 25. I took my DGS with me to an appointment today and all nurses were gushing about my DGS and assumed I was his mum. I got a funny look when I said no actually I’m his nana.

A lot of my friends became grandparents in their 30s and love to be called granny because that’s the relationship.

My mil was a nana at 45and wore it proudly. My mum was a grandma at 49.