Why do I want to get married

[Sofaflop]

It would make no sense. I have adult DC and no plans for more, own my own house outright , good income and pensions provision.

I've always said I'd never live with a man again, let alone marry and was very clear about that with DP from the start, so I dont know if he'd like the idea or not, he's just accepted it'd not on the cards, it's not something we discuss.

But I find myself wanting to marry him. I've nearly asked him on a couple of occasions! I've no idea how we'd sort out finances, it would almost certainly disadvantage me and my DC, and it's not even that I'm hankering after a pretty dress and a big day, I'd do it very low key.

So what is the matter with me?!

Nothing is wrong with you. I felt the same after my divorce. Said I would never marry again. Didn’t want to and felt screwed over. Then I met my husband. I couldn’t see life without him. I had met my one. And marriage ment a huge amount to me after I met him

Don’t let your heart rule your head. Your kids inheritance is at stake here.
Have a handfasting ceremony and a party, but you would be daft to actually remarry and risk your finances

Yes, I know it's a bad idea, I'm just reflecting on why I want it rather than actually planning to do it!

You want security and commitment. That’s ok.
I never wanted to get married until I met my husband. Then I did. I even wanted his name, which went against every principle I’ve ever held. I just did.

Well, you're the only one who can answer this, surely. You say yourself that it would disadvantage you and your children financially and that you never want to live with a man again, and that you have no interest in a big party and a nice frock. There's no reason to marry him.