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MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 14:01

what would you do?

As a woman who has been rinsed financially by her stbexh, was a sahm to five kids, no skills and is looking to rebuild from scratch but is ambitious and wants to earn good money, where would you start?

I am lost. I want to train. Build a career. Be self sufficient. I would like to aim high as I may as well. But it’s all new to me!

What direction?

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fishtank12345 · 09/11/2025 15:24

Something like admin type training? That's where I would start.

SingingOcean · 09/11/2025 15:27

I’m not convinced by book keeping. No advancement.

I agree with the idea to get in somewhere sizeable with lots of scope to move up.

DirtyBird · 09/11/2025 15:31

I would look for an admin assistant type of role. Then while doing that learn some computer skills. Maybe in that role find a process that can be improved and do it. I’ve done this quite often which helped build my computer/tech skills.

IndiaAutumn · 09/11/2025 15:31

Civil service is a good option- less ageist than lots of places and the way they assess applications and interviews means you can bring in experience from areas of life other than work. Excellent pension.

SingingOcean · 09/11/2025 15:32

ChatGPT is really good for this kind of dilemma.

FlorenceAgainstTheMachine · 09/11/2025 15:32

MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 15:18

Thank you for this but I can state that this kind of work has zero appeal to me.

But these are the sort of careers that you can upskill relatively quickly, have a decent salary and a good pension. Bookkeeping and social media aren’t particularly easy to get into and there’s very little real progression.

Perplexed20 · 09/11/2025 15:36

How computer literate are you?

SingingOcean · 09/11/2025 15:37

DirtyBird · 09/11/2025 15:31

I would look for an admin assistant type of role. Then while doing that learn some computer skills. Maybe in that role find a process that can be improved and do it. I’ve done this quite often which helped build my computer/tech skills.

We’ve recently taken on a couple of men in admin roles OP’s age. One is ex postman and one is ex lorry driver. Both have career-swapped due to physical demands. They have shockingly poor IT skills. Don’t know how to send a document to the printer, don’t know how to accept a calendar invite, don’t know how to google etc.

TheLivelyRose · 09/11/2025 15:37

MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 15:19

Not social care or nursing.

I would like to start on something that I can progress in quickly. Perhaps book keeping is the answer?

Do you have gcse maths?

I dont see how you can do book keeping without basic maths skills.

MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 15:38

GCSEs and A levels and a degree in English lit

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MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 15:39

FlorenceAgainstTheMachine · 09/11/2025 15:32

But these are the sort of careers that you can upskill relatively quickly, have a decent salary and a good pension. Bookkeeping and social media aren’t particularly easy to get into and there’s very little real progression.

With bookkeeping could one or progress to accountancy?

OP posts:
SingingOcean · 09/11/2025 15:39

FlorenceAgainstTheMachine · 09/11/2025 15:32

But these are the sort of careers that you can upskill relatively quickly, have a decent salary and a good pension. Bookkeeping and social media aren’t particularly easy to get into and there’s very little real progression.

And there are not many options for women our age with little work experience or qualifications.

ThankGodItsAutumn · 09/11/2025 15:39

Have you considered online tutoring?

Middlechild3 · 09/11/2025 15:40

MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 14:01

what would you do?

As a woman who has been rinsed financially by her stbexh, was a sahm to five kids, no skills and is looking to rebuild from scratch but is ambitious and wants to earn good money, where would you start?

I am lost. I want to train. Build a career. Be self sufficient. I would like to aim high as I may as well. But it’s all new to me!

What direction?

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TwoTuesday · 09/11/2025 15:40

Classroom assistant then train to be a teacher, if you've got a degree in something that is taught in schools? Anything worthwhile takes a few years, if you're starting from nothing.

SingingOcean · 09/11/2025 15:42

MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 15:39

With bookkeeping could one or progress to accountancy?

Not really, not in a limited timeframe.

hibiscuslightening · 09/11/2025 15:45

How about learning BSL. You can start learning online for free and once you have a basic qualification it can open doors to BSL support work. Once you have a job they will support you to train to a higher level. There is a real shortage of BSL support workers in education and once trained the pay of much better than regular TA work.

SM33 · 09/11/2025 15:46

PauliesWalnuts · 09/11/2025 14:49

Do you have basic admin skills? If not, try a returning to work course, and then try to get into either the civil service/arms length body as an assistant officer, or in local government. The roles may not immediately set you on fire but at your age (the same age as me) they will set you up for a decent pension by the time you retire, plus you can move between departments in search of other more interesting vacancies. They also have decent annual leave and flexy working policies in the main.

What did you mean by arms length body? I also need to retrain and someone suggested civil service to me too so interested in any advice

MaidOfSteel · 09/11/2025 15:48

You could look at the jobs pages for some of the bigger third sector organisations, see what’s available in your area. This one is for NACRO, and I’m sure there’ll be loads of organisations to look at if you put your thinking cap on.

nacrojobs.engageats.co.uk/V2/Vacancy/Index?enc=HRIqN026cS+vCbCYvrmuUlRuC79/39yknYl6JyVFAq0mun48UhH8QAr+8i5zlZ1Iopg1CFFQVvSCOnD76tE5697cs+NZYbkYpVmUd+mthuk=

Eviebeans · 09/11/2025 15:50

Childminding

Mogwatch · 09/11/2025 15:50

It wouldn't have to be your entire career but it's pretty hard to find tutors for A level English Lit. Maybe even routes into teaching in sixth form colleges perhaps?

Our 6th form college told us it was literally impossible to get a qualified supply teacher when my daughter's A level English Lit teacher went off long term sick... and at a big sixth form you would have liked minded colleagues, share planning etc

PauliesWalnuts · 09/11/2025 15:52

SM33 · 09/11/2025 15:46

What did you mean by arms length body? I also need to retrain and someone suggested civil service to me too so interested in any advice

Edited

It’s an organisation that isn’t a government ministry or department, as it usually has more specialised staff (plus the usual administrators like me) - it has decent pensions, you aren’t a civil servant but you’re a public servant, and a ministry is usually a shareholder in your organisation. Some examples would be Highways England, Natural England, Coastguard, HSE, CPS, DVLA, Met Office, Prison and Probation Service and a hundred or so others! And all advertise jobs on the Civil Service Jobs website.

GingerPaste · 09/11/2025 15:52

Civil service take people with no previous experience. I just got a job there aged almost 60.

tryingtobesogood · 09/11/2025 15:53

MisguidedOptimist · 09/11/2025 15:06

Social media management? Or bookkeeping?

Book keeping is good, training is around 1 year and you can work for yourself while you upskill

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