Gone from bad to worse (silent/stonewalling)

[Windmill34]

Posted the other day saying how partner treated me on his hospital appointment.
Basically we couldn’t find car space and he had 10 mins till appointment time,
I said you go in and I’ll find a space (his car)
he said NO
you go in I’ll go park it (10mins away at least) and run back
All this because he wouldn’t let me park his car !
I’ve been driving over 50 years 🤷‍♀️
I found this hurting and lack of trust.
I just said ok, you get stressed up run all the way back, to which he “ I didn’t want you to come anyway “ 😡 . I said you should of said and got out of car slamming the car door
He got back in time, we never spoke
On the way walking back to car he says
“so don’t you want to know what was said”
I just said , if you want to tell me you don’t need winding up to speak
Nothing said all night from then on

Im waiting on an apology, yes I know I’m as bad as him
Then thing is I don’t think he thinks he’s in the wrong doing/saying what he did
Friday he goes out to his hobby, I thought I’m not staying in so went to sisters and came home 4pm
Still silence
He asked around 5pm was I having left over tea from last night, I said yes
That was it all night, no speaking apart from
” do you want a drink “

Now, he decides to ask ( his trainers delivered)
do these look ok
I answered yes
He’s gone out now asking
“ am I doing my own tea , shall he get something he needs to know “
” I reply, there’s a lot I need to know, but don’t get an answer “ he just said “ I only want a yes or a no “

It’s so f…. Childish (both) but I know from previous words that he will if I bring it up again say
” I’m not discussing it”
He wants me to carry on like nothing happened
Its like I shouldn’t answer back or have an opinion he’s always got to have the last word
and I’ve got no opinion

I know it’s only me that it’s bothering and I feel I’m walking on eggshells in my own home.
If I do start to talk again he will think it’s ok to treat me like this as if I say
you haven’t even apologised, he will say
ok I’m sorry (when I know he’s not by his tone)
Anything for a quite life,

Im stuck, still angry with him but really hate it
do i just suck it up and move on ? Whilst he carries on getting on just interested in wether I’m making the tea

By the way
he’s 71 and I’m 65 ,

Depressing to think of people living like this
What a shitty way to spend your life

How long have you been together?

Any adult kids?

Life is so short and precious.

Why waste another moment with this cave man of a husband.

Dump him and enjoy life. Why have some pointless abusive boyfriend in your property?

This sounds just like me and dh, it's exhausting and so pointless.
If I speak up for myself, I'm being 'arsey'.
He's always right, but he does apologise later. He only means his apology until the next time.

And you continue to endure what sounds like a shit life because…..?

You don’t have to live like this. 💐

Andsomemore

I don’t need comments like this , I feel bad enough as it is . Thank you

You have started threads about this dire relationship many times in the past

same advice always

So many people saying
you don’t have to live like this
dump him
live your life

answer me, as if it were you
so are you financially secure , to buy another house/flat?
Have you the energy @ my age

yes I will have monies from house, but NOT enough
so come on people who say
leave, dump him live your life (which I do by the way)
what would you do ??
it’s not as easy to do as to say it , you do know that

I've lived in my town for 42 yrs , in this last house 22 yrs .

I think people would need more information if you need housing advice.

You're legally single, so all your assets are yours alone-this is good!

Do you have a pension, is the bloke on the deeds of the house?

You asked what we would do- I absolutely do not tolerate shit behaviour from anyone who is meant to love and cherish me.

I've been traumatised by people who used to stonewall and other abusive behaviour. It's left me with lifelong damage. I do not accept it for one second now, as an adult. Peace, happiness, freedom and safety above everything.

Why are you posting OP? If you just want virtual hugs say so.

You ask: do i just suck it up and move on ?

My answer is no, you don't. You plan leaving, you do small things every day to make a life of your own your new reality.

I'd also suggest that you're exhausted because of this awful relationship, not because you're 65, because 65 isn't that old.

@Windmill34 I am in my sixties. I would still say leave.

I would rather rent than live like you describe. That’s the truth.

You are completely entitled to make different decisions but there’s no point starting repeated threads if you have no intention of leaving him.

Ok then
so suck it up and accept this is your life until the either he or you die

Sounds like you're not poor .... book yourself a 24 day cruise. By the time you get back you'lll know what to do!