If you had to say what the worst thing your cheating ex did ...what was it?

[wontonn]

Mine had an affair with a friend. She and her husband used to socialise with us. When I look back I see all the toilet trips they had in restaurants etc. How did I not see it? I hate the fact that they took me for a fool and carried it out in front of both of the spouses. Did it give them an extra thrill?

My ex left me with our two children under the age of 4 (10 years ago) we had so many plans and I was beyond shocked totally didn’t see it coming. Worse thing he did was buy a dog and call it the same name we planned to. I took slight pleasure when the dog ate his collection of rare comics and they had a behavioural specialist come as it constantly shit in his shoes.

Saying to me in a very patronising, condescending tone of voice, "you're not my girlfriend. I already have a girlfriend who I love very much."

He already had a pregnant girlfriend (me) who he claimed to love very much when he met her.

I asked him, why, if he loved her so much, was he still sleeping with me. All he could say was "I shouldn't have done that."

And like pps have said, his refusal to acknowledge that he had caused any pain. He acted like his lying and cheating were things that had just somehow happened and he was the innocent victim inexplicably caught in the middle of it.

Nice one. 🤣🤣

That is so horrible.

The law doesn't go far enough does it with these types. Thank goodness your solicitor saw that one coming.

Slept with ow 2 hours after being with me and sleeping with me telling me his undying love for me (we had briefly separated but not officially and i didnt know about the affair then ) he went round to hers straight after.
Gaslighted me abusively over 6 months when I was suspicious of ow
Exposed the whole thing to others on social media after lying to work colleagues that we had split(we hadnt ) and he was with ow, he was out with them on a night out and it all came out awfully after a photo of them together with colleagues was posted, I felt so humiliated

Don't want to go into details of the cause as he's not worth the ink but the solution was satisfying - I bought an ice cream van and drove it into his caravan with the chimes on full blast the bastard

My ex had an affair with a friend of the family. He/ she/ her husband used to arrange nights and events out as a foursome - it's only looking back that I could see the excusing themselves to the toilet etc at the same times. He was friendly with her husband too. We were in the same social group for over 10 years. How sick do you have to be to do this ? Taking the piss out of both spouses? I realised I was being avoided by friends of the woman as well but didn't know why. This is what I referred to before as the mental damage they do - make you feel like a fool, blame you while ALL THE TIME they were doing this.

When we were still together, my ex had an affair with my very good friend (I thought), a man who was HIV positive and very promiscuous (his own words) - he would have dozens of encounters with men every week. This was in the 80's; at this time you got HIV and soon died a horrible death.

When I found out, I got tested, but it was six to eight weeks before a result; and then you had to wait six months and test again.

I was crying one day because it was such a long wait to find if he'd caught it and given it to me. I told him I could die because of what he did and he said scathingly, 'Oh for fuck's sake, we're all going to die anyway!' and swept out.

As it turned out, I wasn't infected, and I neither know nor care about him.

Ive had that happen also, just think of the fact your the better person, not them they are just dog shit

Booked her into a nearby hotel when we were on a family holiday. He’d persuaded me that playing golf every day on holiday would be good for his mental health after a particularly stressful time at work. I loved him so much and wanted to support him. He was not playing golf, of course. I am an idiot.

He was in the forces and told me he was being stationed to Cyprus as an excuse to end the relationship, rather than just tell me he had met someone else in the UK town he was currently stationed at.

The lengths these men go to!

Madness

I’m so sad to read this @BadLuckNameChange and couldn’t leave it unacknowledged. Keep going. You’ll come through this pain. You’re stronger than you know. Xx