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I’m the girl who had the dream job and got screwed over

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Rearing2go · 05/11/2025 20:56

I didn’t know where to post this. I just need to vent.

I posted last week in aibu about issues with my bfs dm and how I wasn’t allowed to move into his rented house (owned by dm), I lost my dream job and am unemployed but have an interview for next week all positive.

Today I went to collect all belongings out of house, she was there. Bf wanted me to be the bigger person and apologise in person for angry messages I sent, I didn’t want to but did anyway. She didn’t accept apology I explained why I sent them, she told me she wasn’t to blame. Kept interrupting me when I was speaking to the point of me saying, can I speak. She was defensive and being a bitch and felt attacked by how I have always felt how unwelcoming she was. I was calm and didn’t raise my voice once, everything I said was fact, she didn’t like that and was bringing things up from my db’s past that had nothing to do with me( ex). My db stuck up for me and defended me , I felt his support.
I ended the conversation with I’m done and I’m done with this and walked away. She however smirked and my db said, your delighted about this to her, I said of course she is, my db said no don’t cause he didn’t want me to lower myself to her because she wanted to rise me.

I need to vent because he went to speak to her 3 hours ago to sort things ( this was arranged yesterday) and im so stressed because I don’t know if she is going to manipulate my db and will I have a relationship, I’m mentally drained 😔

OP posts:
Friendlygingercat · 05/11/2025 21:32

I cant see your relationship with this BF going anywhere while the mother is hanging around. You would be best to walk away from them both.

catin8oot5 · 05/11/2025 21:53

Do you mean brother as in db? I’m confused

Schoolchoicesucks · 05/11/2025 22:04

It doesn't sound like much of an apology if it involved you telling her how unwelcome she's always made you feel. It sounds like the start of an apology that morphs into you trying to justify your behaviour or actions.

What happens next with the relationship, housing, job?

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Friendlygingercat · 05/11/2025 21:32

I cant see your relationship with this BF going anywhere while the mother is hanging around. You would be best to walk away from them both.

This.

I assumed you ended it with this clown after he enabled and allowed this shocking treatment of you?!?!

MissAmbrosia · 05/11/2025 22:11

Why did you not find a room somewhere and take the job?

PullTheBricksDown · 05/11/2025 22:22

Assuming db = boyfriend? My experience is that when people say 'don't lower yourself to be like that person' it means 'You should behave nicely to them or I'll be angry, but I'll let them get away with treating you badly' 😐

Tigerbalmshark · 05/11/2025 22:25

Honestly this relationship has no future if you can’t be in the same room as his mother. Just rip the bandaid off and dump him.

LondonGirrrrl · 05/11/2025 22:43

What happened origionally?

Cat1504 · 05/11/2025 22:44

You need to move on

Dollymylove · 05/11/2025 22:53

He's under his mothers thumb. Walk away with your head held high

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