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Frustrating colleague.

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Pottersciderbar82 · 05/11/2025 13:18

Whatever I say, whatever I contribute or bring up in discussions this colleague tells me I’m wrong, “thats not quite right”, well no, that’s not the point here”, etc etc.

They are extremely details driven so if I say for instance the rain last night has meant that my garden is flooded this morning “ (ankle deep in watery mud) the immediate response is “well no, it’s not flooded is it, it’s probably a bit waterlogged but it’s not flooded”.

Consequently I can’t have a conversation with them about anything.

I was just talking about a meeting coming up with travel, all fine but they then asked why I hadn’t booked travel yet, and then went off to find the email with the invite to the meeting so they could tell me how long I’d left it..
They are not a manager, (possibly ADHD, so many traits but not diagnosed or even aware of the traits it seems)
They dominate meetings, interrupt and talk over people/ me constantly.

I can’t avoid them, we work closely but jeez it’s hard going.
Any wisdom?

OP posts:
ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 05/11/2025 21:20

Just say ‘Thank you for your input’ whilst smiling sweetly with dagger eyes.

Greenislandsunset · 05/11/2025 22:01

Say hello, goodbye and have a nice weekend etc but dont get into 'social' conversations. If you do, keep looking at your screen/keep working and say occasionally

Uh-huh
Mummmm
Ok

And repeat

Work stuff. To the point and don't respond to questions like 'why haven't you booked' etc. If they ask again, fein concentrating really hard on a work thing and pretend you don't hear.

If its a work conversation don't be drawn in. Stick to facts, of course they should have their point heard but plow ahead if they try to deliberately distract.

Hopefully will take the large hints.

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