How do you guys deal with other people gossiping?
I don't usually engage in gossiping. It doesn't usually serve a purpose or help me. Also I am too busy too really care about drama that happens to others. I just don't care. Sometimes people would confode in me about whatever, and often it never gets repeated because I don't gossip.
I am subjected to gossiping now.
A few months ago I was going through a bad patch. I don't want to explain it. It's bad. At the time I took my frustration out in the wrong way wrong to a distant family member of mine and said something awful in an 'anonymous' message. It wasn't gossiping. I did something awful.
A few months after that, she knew it was me and she came to confront me and at the time I denied it. Over the weeks that followed,.I felt coeircoined and she wasn't very nice either about it.
Eventually, I did own this and I admitted things and explained myself and apologised.
It was kinda all smoothed out at the time between me and her.
I never updated my parents about this. I never admitted it to anyone else in the family. So they still have a version of it that it wrong.
My mother was on a call yesterday with someone else and I overheard my mother going on a rant over the phone about my distant family member in relation to this topic. My mother was trash talking this person for ages. My mother is unaware that I am responsible for doing something bad.
I also know, my mother hated this distant family member for years but kept it hidden from the distant family member. All I heard yesterday was a n episode of excitement and gossip and an opportunity to trash talk the other lady. But it was all surrounding events of what I did.
I know all this is probably so confusing especially how I am unwilling to share exact details of what I did.
The gossiping over the phone between my mother and someone else a while entire two months after the initial confrontation. I thought it would have died down and they would have got something else to talk about.