Everything needs doing by tomorrow and I’m drowning

[DrowningInIt]

It’s 4pm and I need to have everything done by tomorrow. I’ll probably be up till midnight at this rate.

The laundry’s not done, the kitchen looks like a bomb’s hit it, and I’ve got a van coming tomorrow to take away a skip full of rubbish that still needs sorting. I work from home and have a pile of work I haven’t managed to start yet. I need to lay a floor, deal with emails, sort out my banking, organise court files, pay bills, and I’m in an argument with someone on top of it all.

The dog’s bored and whining, and it’s getting dark so early that everything just feels heavier. Before anyone asks, no, there’s no one available to help me with any of this.

To top it off, I broke up with my partner yesterday. I just feel completely overwhelmed and alone with everything right now.

Ah, that's rough. Step by step and accept you can't do everything today. Priorities.

I'd get the rubbish ready so that can go.
As long as you've got some clean pants for tomorrow, leave the laundry.
Do one work thing to show you're on it and come back to the rest.

💐

Take the dog for a walk.
Make a cup of tea.
while you drink it, make an action list, in order of priority.
Tackle #1, the #2
Keep going until the TODAY’s essentials are done.
Tomorrow is another day 🌻

Sorry to read this. Sending hugs. 🥰

I don’t have messes of advise but I do feel like this sometimes and find that writing a list and breaking the time down helps. Put in order of priority or start with a few easy wins!

Rather than trying to do everything - assign a task to a one slot and just do that. Even if it’s a quick walk - do it. It feels unimportant but will massively help.

accept that yes you probably will be up late - but make that better. Get some yummy but quick food. Make sure you eat. Get a water bottle ready. Put some music on and smash it!!

good luck!!

Sorry youre feeling overwhelmed. It doesn't;t all need doing. Focus on the most important (probably work) and then tackle everything else one thing at a time.

Nobody cares if your kitchen's a mess and the laundry isn't done.

Which ones actually needs doing today?
walk the dog and your actual work

In terms of laundry, you just need to make sure you have clothes for tomorrow.

Why do you need put down a floor today?

For the person you’re in a arguement with. Tell them you can’t discuss it now and get back to them next week.

It sounds like you need a hug and a cup of tea!

If helpful, most of these tasks don’t actually need doing by tomorrow. The first thing I’d do is look at what work-related tasks need to be urgently addressed, and tackle those for max an hour while having tea and a treat. Then look at the rubbish for the skip and do only essential sorting.

For the dog, while the tea is boiling, put the dog in one room and hide treats thoroughly out the house or garden. Alternatively you could do a 5 minute training session to teach them a new trick before starting working. Using their brain uses energy and can delay a walk when you’re very busy.

then make a plan to tackle the house over the next few days. Unless you’ve got someone coming by to judge the house, your overwhelm needs attention (rest and prioritising) before the house.

Take the dog out for a 20 minute walk. A bit of fresh air will do you the world of good and blow out the cobwebs.

The laundry’s not done, the kitchen looks like a bomb’s hit it Who gives a shit? It’ll still be there tomorrow.

I’ve got a van coming tomorrow to take away a skip full of rubbish that still needs sorting Ok, this is going to cost you money, so this needs to be your first priority.

I work from home and have a pile of work I haven’t managed to start yet Second priority after the skip. Spend twenty minutes glancing through what you’ve got and putting it in order or priority. If the deadline isn’t today, it can wait.

I need to lay a floor, deal with emails, sort out my banking, organise court files, pay bills Not tonight you don’t. Nothing in that list is so urgent that it can’t be done tomorrow.

and I’m in an argument with someone on top of it By text? Reply ‘I’m more than happy to argue about this until the cows come home, but it’s going to have to wait until tomorrow as I just have too much on this evening and haven’t got time’ And then put your phone on silent.

You’ll get there. 💐

sit down, few deep breaths, big glass of water and substantial snack. Make a tea/coffee and a list.
I find it helps to write an approximate timescale for each task e.g. 10 minutes, 1 hour.
Complete and tick off a few quick things to give you encouragement.
focus on the absolute essentials first which are food, fluids and walk for you and dog.
unless you are self employed go sick or inform your employer that you are unable to achieve everything due to a personal emergency.