What is Reasonable Here?

[SageSorrelSaffron]

If you are less social than your partner- how does that work in practice?

If you and your partner are invited to a social occasion as a couple, what percentage do you turn down. Do they then go alone and what do you expect them to say in your absence. Do you want them to lie, or how do you want them to manage it.

My husband is much less sociable than I am. He turns down most invitations, so if I want to go, I go alone.

For people who know us well, I’ll say something like “oh well you know what X is like”. For people I know less well, I’ll say something like “X isn’t very sociable” or “it’s not really X’s sort of thing”.

I don’t see any point in lying and pretending that he’s busy doing something else when he’s not. Apart from anything else, it would then be awkward if they said they would try and find another date to suit him.

Agree with @Fifthtimelucky why should it be anything other than 'x isn't very sociable so didn't want to come' ?