TW: feeling sad after miscarriage & announcements

[Figtree11]

Just needed somewhere to write this I guess. It’s very quiet on the miscarriage board.
I had my fourth miscarriage a couple of weeks ago. I have no children & it’s been 2 years since this has all been happening with lots of tests & scans in this time.

I’ve been doing ok, but have been triggered today by seeing someone I know pregnant with a similar due date to mine announcing on instagram. I know social media is harmful for me so have gone on a muting spree. I should stay off in general really.

Not sure what I’m after on this thread, but I’ve no one to talk to who has been through it as much as I have.

Im so sorry OP. I had a mmc. I was working as a teacher. It hit me really hard when a student (very young) who was due the same time as me. Of course I had to stay professional but it was a gut punch. Look after yourself

@Wolfiefan thank you, mine have been mmc too. I know tomorrows a new day but feeling very sorry for myself this evening

Hi OP,

It’s really hard. I had 3 miscarriages before my DC were born and had to watch friends and family, pregnant at the same time, go on to have their precious babies. I was really happy for them, but also really sad and angry for me.

But I want to give you hope- after pushing for progesterone in early pregnancy, I now have 3 healthy children. It will happen for you, keep trying. 🤗

It's hard @Figtree11 . Try to be kind to yourself. I remember seeing pregnant people and pregnancy announcements and feeling so upset, sad, and envious. Then I'd have intense self-loathing and feel like a terrible person begrudging someone else happiness. It was a very dark time. It's okay to feel however you feel. It's okay to step away from social media. I even stepped away from friendships. I didn't meet my best mates baby until he was a toddler. I just could bring myself to being around babies or pregnant people. I even avoided my nibbling at times. Sometimes you have to protect your own. wellbeing.

Oh OP I’m so sorry. It’s so hard. I remember getting to 13 weeks before the scan then getting that news. I can’t even describe how I felt. Why the hell wouldn’t you feel sorry for yourself? Be kind and gentle to yourself OP

It's so awful. Sorry for your loss.

Thank you to you all for commenting. It’s definitely made me feel less alone with how I’m feeling and that others understand and what I’m feeling is normal. I feel a bit better today, and know that unfortunately i’ve been dealt a bad hand with fertility, but have to try keep looking forward

I empathise entirely

I had 6 mc before I finally managed a successful pregnancy with my daughter

it was 3 years of hell .

I hated all the ugly feelings I had towards other people including random celebrities

I'm sorry for your losses. 💐
It's very tough to see birth announcements after this, isn't it? You're right to mute social media for the time being. I hope that you get the fertility investigations that you need.
Like pp, I also had miscarriages before I had my healthy babies. I hope that you have a similar successful journey 🤞

Oh, thats so awful, isn't it? You feel bad for your feelings, but you think - how come it's so easy for them?