Not living together means I never have any time...

[Pjnow]

I'm not complaining exactly, the relationship is working for me and I love having him around. I'm pretty sure I'll never live with a man again, but this relationship has reached a stage where were pretty much living together but in seperate houses iyswim. See each other almost every day, stay over sometimes, sometimes go back to our own homes.

So after work, we'll have dinner together, maybe go to the gym, watch some TV. But I have very little time at home alone. When were together we're together. E.g. when I was married, in the evenings DH and I would be at home together but often doing things seperately around the place. E.g. chores, reading, needlework. Now I always have a "guest" or am a guest elsewhere.

I'm not sure what the answer is or how a relationship where you don't share a home allows time for chores or solitary hobbies?

It’s not difficult, you either have him round but don’t entertain him or you have to use your big girl words and say “I need some time to do x, y, z can we meet up after x time”. I’m not seeing my live out OH until 5pm today because we’ve both been working full time this week, been to sports groups this morning, done our own food shopping, he’s got an appointment mid afternoon, and with any luck he might have done some housework and then we’ll see each other. This is pretty normal for us at least one day of the weekend. When you don’t live together you’ve also got two households to run so all the chores need doing twice, you can’t divide the labour to create more free couples time.