Looking up old boyfriends, do you do this?

[JustReacher]

I've just tried to look someone up from 30 years ago and realised that of course all the photos that are coming up are Too Young as the men in question would be in their fifties or sixties by now and I am looking at photos of 30-somethings.

I do find it interesting seeing how they are now. Mostly paunchy, bald, not at all attractive and thank goodness I didn't stay with them.

I'm completely happily married, just nosy! Who have you looked up and what did you find?

I've looked up 2 of mine. Sadly with going down a bit of a rabbit hole, I found out they've both died. Both mid/ late 50s 😔

I have done yes, my first serious boyfriend when I was 17 was a few years older than me, so he is an old man because I am mid 50s he looks "the same "but I can't for the life of me understand what i saw in him. Im assuming raging hormones 😂 i met my Dh when I was 21 so there wasn't that many boyfriends.

I check up on one of mine, my only serious relationship apart from DH. He still looks good and fit even though he's in his mid 60s.

The best but is know he's been with his OH for around 40 years, still has not married her and the didn't have children. My children and grandchildren mean the world to me and I feel he's missed out on so much.

On the other hand I am friends with male friends who never went past the mate status and they definitely show their age.

Did it not occur to you that perhaps he or his partner (or both) didn't want kids?

I know he didn't and we split up because he was starting to think about marrying me. I still think he's missed out though.

I have looked up a few. Mostly fat and old (like myself) but also happily married with kids, so I'm pleased for them.

My man and I have been together for 20 years, not married and we don't have children, and I would feel absolutely patronised by anyone suggesting we have missed out. It's our choice.

I haven’t deliberately looked anyone up but I came across an ex on Tinder recently and was shocked by how much he’d let himself go.
He was always fit and well groomed when we were together and he’s really not now. Felt a bit sorry for him but I still swiped left.

The ones that hurt me and treated me poorly at the end of the relationship.I do occasionally. If anything to see just how bad their lives have become.

One cheated on me and married her and he now lives with his wife in her parents, home and their child. He must have very little control over his day to day life if he lives with his wife's parents in their home

One was an arrogant twit at university and thought he was destined for great things. He certainly wasn't and his life is a joke. I've ended up successful in my career, in a way he never has.

Yes I have, a couple of them. One died in his late 20s in his sleep, one is happily with a girlfriend and they have two children, one is divorced and looks like a smug twat. (He always did, but I couldn't see it at 19!)

Have done. Don’t know why I’m surprised, but they tend to look like their fathers. Not as attractive as they were!

Have done. Don’t know why I’m surprised, but they tend to look like their fathers. Not as attractive as they were!

Why?! Sounds like he’s doing fine to me.

I wonder why women constantly see the benchmark of success in their lives as to whether or not they ve been married and had children.

Maybe they didn't want children, maybe they're completely happy.

It's misogyny to suggest that they can't be happy without children.