What would you do?
Christmas is always tough for me, since DH, my DC's Dad died, im not sure what a family Christmas is supposed to look like. Whist, in many ways, I've moved on with a new realtionship, I still find it very difficult that DC's Dad is no around for the significant occasions.
This year, my Dad has a cancer diagnosis and treatment, my Mum, which until recently was everyone's rock has suddenly become very frail, and my sister and her family will be with her in laws. Leaving me to "entertian" Mum and Dad, plus two youg adult DC, one of whom will likely eat dinner with us but the be chomping at the bit to see his GF anf the other who struggles with MH and is almost a recluse.
My BF has just told me he'll be going to his brother's with his parents. I was expecting that. I've always told myself it's just one day, there's no reason to make people miserable by making them feel pulled from pillar to post (so e.g. DS should go to GF if that's what he wants) and there are other good things planned over the holiday period.
BF shoukd go and make his parents happy, but hed said he come and join us in the evening, and I now realise he means about 10pm, not the teatime I was expecting.
I think I'll be ready for bed by about 9pm. I expect Mum and Dad will go home long before then. I know he's trying to do what will make me happy, but it makes me want to cry. The day is always hard for me anyway.
If I made a fuss I think he'd probably change his plans, but I don't want to be that person...or to be the reason he upsets his (perfectly lovely) Mum.
I need some ideas for making a potentially miserable Christmas day a bit bearable.