Am I being to harsh?

[Betsy2026]

Soo had an argument tonight with the other half. I need to know if I’m in the wrong.? He supports a well known club and goes to a lot of the matches these last two weeks he’s been to two matches and not walked in till early hours and one again tonight and last weekend he went out to see one of these talk things with a football legend. I don’t really go out and this week I’m annual leave and spent the whole week trying to organise the house. I’ve got a night out planned Friday which I think I deserve after all it is my annual leave. And I work long hours it’s my only break. I’ve asked he keeps Saturday and Sunday free to help me with things. He’s not happy because I’ve told him not to go
out Saturday. Am I in the wrong?

No, you are not! From the outside he sounds like he's being selfish? I would have thought that when you are on your annual leave he might have taken a day off so you could do something together

On the surface I would say that you are not wrong to ask if he could keep the weekend free to help you out, especially after spending your annual leave organising your shared home.

He does sound rather greedy and selfish grabbing as much time as possible, treating himself to game related activities.

As previous poster mentioned it doesn't sound great that he didn't suggest spending some time together while you had your time off.
I hope you enjoy your Friday night out OP, you most definitely have earned yourself a good time!

No you aren't being selfish.

Were either of the matches away matches or evening matches because not coming home until the early hours after a home afternoon match twice in a row is taking the piss. Plus tonight's match and the legends talk? He might as well be married to the club.
And I say this as a bit of a football fan myself. I know of at least one guy who regarded himself as a super fan and whose wife had enough of him being perpetually at football matches or supporters meetings and divorced him.

I think it's awful you've spent your annual leave doing house stuff while he goes off and enjoys himself .

I hope your evening out is relaxing and fun for you. And it's entirely reasonable to get him to do his share of the household things at the weekend.

You really just don’t sound very compatible if he likes going out a lot and being social, and you don’t really like going out. Strange you don’t go and do fun things together, he doesn’t seem to have taken any time to spend with you this week, and you’ve asked him to stay home to ‘help’ with stuff, why don’t either of you want to enjoy time together?

It sounds like in two weeks he has done two things. That doesn’t sound much.

What happened to your house that it has taken a week to organise? Have you just moved in?

Not fair in the slightest OP and do not stand for it. Personally I'd get the locks changed next time he is off on one of his 'jollies' and start divorce proceedings