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Moving school through court live in order

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MaxGracie · 26/10/2025 17:14

Hi looking for some advise. In June this year social services contacted my partner to collect his daughter due to ongoing neglect and alcohol misuse. Since then she has lived with us. We recently finalised at court live in order and spending time with mum

week 1 pick up Friday from school and drop off sat morning
week 2 Friday pick up from school drop off to school Monday.

the rest of the time we have her. We’re currently making an application to move her school as we have other children and live 30 mins away. Each other way without traffic.

we just wanted to ask if anyone else had gone through this and what outcome would be expected.

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Soontobe60 · 26/10/2025 21:26

I think it’s a bad idea - your DH should be facilitating keeping his DD at a school she is familiar with in what must be a very traumatic time for her. It’s about what’s best for her, not what’s most convenient for him.

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MaxGracie · 27/10/2025 08:19

Soontobe60 · 26/10/2025 21:26

I think it’s a bad idea - your DH should be facilitating keeping his DD at a school she is familiar with in what must be a very traumatic time for her. It’s about what’s best for her, not what’s most convenient for him.

Unfortunately we have other children and it was always known to social we’d need to move her. She is only 5 and had adapted fine in our home. She wants to go to the school with her siblings.

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Smartiepants79 · 27/10/2025 08:23

I have no experience of this but I would hope that if it’s truly in the interests of the child and she is also happy for it to happen then the court will agree. What has her social worker said?

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 27/10/2025 09:43

So does mum not agree? If she consents then no problem

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 27/10/2025 09:44

Also is mum cleaning up her act and trying to get daughter back or 5050?

DorisTheFinkasaurus · 27/10/2025 09:55

I was going to say that it’s destabilising but she’s 5. It makes total sense to move her with her siblings. That’s very stabilising for all of you and totally reasonable.
You’ll have to apply using a C100 form. I’d ring the family court and ask for advice regarding this application. In my experience, most clerks you find on the other end of the line are incredibly helpful and offer sound advice.
Is there any way mum might actually agree to moving schools/any way she might be brought on board? She’ll feel threatened and resentful but I’m hoping she can actually listen to reason.
You have a lives with order. DD wishes to attend local school with her siblings. Those are two very solid reasons for moving. Even if mum’s on board, do seek a court order to move schools so that the agreement is airtight.

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MaxGracie · 27/10/2025 12:36

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 27/10/2025 09:44

Also is mum cleaning up her act and trying to get daughter back or 5050?

She’s gone back to supervised contact again due to getting drunk with the child in her care again only last week so I don’t see that happening unfortunately. If anything I think contact will likely reduce. Will be mentioned to social at the next meeting.

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MaxGracie · 27/10/2025 12:39

DorisTheFinkasaurus · 27/10/2025 09:55

I was going to say that it’s destabilising but she’s 5. It makes total sense to move her with her siblings. That’s very stabilising for all of you and totally reasonable.
You’ll have to apply using a C100 form. I’d ring the family court and ask for advice regarding this application. In my experience, most clerks you find on the other end of the line are incredibly helpful and offer sound advice.
Is there any way mum might actually agree to moving schools/any way she might be brought on board? She’ll feel threatened and resentful but I’m hoping she can actually listen to reason.
You have a lives with order. DD wishes to attend local school with her siblings. Those are two very solid reasons for moving. Even if mum’s on board, do seek a court order to move schools so that the agreement is airtight.

Thank you, unfortunately her mum will not agree as she doesn’t work or drive and currently lives opposite her current school. We will offer at court to facility travel as we don’t want it to impact her time with her mum.

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MaxGracie · 27/10/2025 12:41

Smartiepants79 · 27/10/2025 08:23

I have no experience of this but I would hope that if it’s truly in the interests of the child and she is also happy for it to happen then the court will agree. What has her social worker said?

Please note we are dealing with an alcoholic here. She will not agree nor will she act in her child’s best interests that is what has led her child into this situation.

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 27/10/2025 12:42

I don't understand about her siblings already bring in the other school. Surely if she's only 5 her siblings aren't at school yet, or does she have older siblings who already live with you?

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MaxGracie · 27/10/2025 12:44

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 27/10/2025 12:42

I don't understand about her siblings already bring in the other school. Surely if she's only 5 her siblings aren't at school yet, or does she have older siblings who already live with you?

Our daughter is currently in school nursery. We also have older children from a previous relationship.

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