Fat and fed up

[QueenStevie]

I have come to the realisation that I am fat. Well, BMI tells me overweight. I have also done the body roundness index thing and I am fat on that too.

I am 12st 8 and 5'8". I think my height lets me get away with more so I don't look 'fat' iyswim. I am just wobbly. My hips are wobbly. My bum is wobbly. My arms are wobbly and my stomach is wobbly.

I always used to be an 'eat anything and get away with it' person when I was younger. Now I am mid 40s, not so much. The trouble is, I love food. I need to know where my next food is coming from and I panic if I don't know. I eat to be happy, I eat to be sad, I eat when I'm bored, I eat due to habit (e.g. cup of tea with biscuits obviously). I have a very sweet tooth. I just enjoy eating. It isn't so much that I am hungry as such and I know all the science about eating stuff that make you feel fuller for longer but it is more my brain and my mouth saying "come on, time for something yummy now" and if I know there is a piece of cake or something sitting there, I can't rest or think about anything else until I have eaten it.

I have downloaded the nutracheck app (again) and I need to be honest with myself about how much I actually consume. It recommends 1200 calories per day 😂😂😂 I don't know if I can actually manage that. I probably have that by lunchtime 🙈 but I have to do something and change my relationship with food.

Not really sure on the point of the post, other than I am home alone and realised I am actually fat. I have been deluding myself up to now.

I’m the exact same as you. Apart from abe and height bug being wobbly and wanting all the food 😂 don’t listen to nutracheck, it’s brilliant as a CC app and I won’t use anything else but it always under estimates how much gig need. Check your TDEE then input the calories into nutracheck. I’m starting again tomorrow… I workout most days so TDEE says 1600 cals. I’m 5”4 and around 10.7 stone and need to loose a stone

What would be a normal day of food?

I would be embarrassed to tell you! And to be honest, I probably couldn't tell you properly because I just pick and graze.

I know what my issues are. I just don't know how to stop it.

My portion control is probably way off, I like creamy stuff, I like cheese (lots of cheese), I like chocolate and sweets and I don't have any self restraint. I know I shouldn't eat something but it's like my mind just won't stop thinking about it. It's not even really anything to do with hunger. I just enjoy eating and I don't know how to change that.

You know sometimes people say that they just forgot to eat or they lost their appetite because something had upset them? I have never had that. I could never forget to eat.

It doesn’t sound like you have loads to lose. I would try limiting the sweet stuff to twice a week, lower carbs and cheese! Find cosy higher protein and veg meals, stews, soup and experiment with posh teas so the tea on it’s own without the biscuits are enough.

Do you exercise? 1200 calories sounds very low, but with exercise a few times a week, you should be able to eat a bit more than that (like 1400) and still lose weight. Also try drinking 2 litres of water a day, that helps curb the hunger cravings!

I am on 1200 to loose weight, my TDEE is 1800 and I am a lot smaller than you.

While I am on Mounjaro, my biggest change is not necessarily how much I eat (that's controlled through the jab) but what I eat.

Away with carbs as the majority of food and swapped to mainly protein. Full fat greek yoghurt for breakfast is a lot more filling than toast and a croissant.

Meat and veg with a small portion of carbs.

Plenty of liquid, I drink around 3l of water, drinking makes a huge difference, if you aren't keen on pure water mix it with a bit of pure fruit juice or herbal/fruit teas.

Try to eat regularly, grazing can work but it's harder to track.

I am an absolute stress eater, cake, chocolate, warm pastries, all so great. I do eat some but now at weekends not during the week anymore.

1200 calories a day is too low. I’d aim for 1600 and see how you get on. Plus walking 8000 steps a day minimums

Thanks everyone. I was shocked about the 1200. I haven't really been exercising but have been back to the gym for the first time in...well, a long time and I did actually enjoy it so hopefully I'll get a little routine going with that. I feel like if I go straight in at the 1200 I am just setting myself up to fail.

I really wish I could try mounjaro but not eligible to get it on NHS and funding DD's uni accommodation is taking all my spare money at the moment.

I was you two years ago. Put a shit load of weight on during COVID and peaked at 85kg (about 13.5 stone) Had high blood pressure and sore knees.

I got the weight off through sheer hard work - cut out carbs and alcohol and exercised daily, I'm 65kg now. It's been tough and even tougher keeping it off, I feel like Victoria Beckham some days lol.

Well done! Sounds like I just have to knuckle down. Carbs and alcohol...😬

I'm a similar weight OP, at least i was a few weeks ago, but much shorter so more visibly fat. I lost a bit recently then went comfort eating after a difficult few weeks and cannot find the mental strength to weigh myself or get back on track. I'm probably over the 13 again now, I made a vow the day would never come.

The weight loss forum here is really good and supportive. Brilliant sensible tips and also really honest accounts of the mental process involved. There are different threads for different people, like a group looking to lose 7lb by Christmas or morbidly obese with 10 stone to lose etc. You should check it out OP and find your tribe. Its very helpful

That's what it boils down to unfortunately, complete change of lifestyle with no shortcuts. I hate being so disciplined with my diet and exercise but it's worth it, I was more miserable being fat.

I am you op

i need to lose 1.5-2 stone really.
it’s been creeping up over the last three years but this year I’ve jus ballooned as hit peri and see to have lost all my self control

i I feel awful in absolutely everything I wear and jus feel hefty bloated and generally shit

i know within a few days of eating cleaner and getting water in I feel so much better

I bought a walking pad for the lounge so need to drag it out and get my fat ass on it every evening and give my head a wobble to sort it out

Right, I will head on over to the weight loss board. Just finished a bottle of wine left from last night and had a big roast dinner as DD home from uni. That's my last supper!

I have overnight oats prepped in the fridge, then low carbing it for the rest of the day.

My body is a temple.