What to wear to a memorial service?

[windchimeheaven]

The person died three months ago and had a small family funeral. They are now having a memorial service for a wider range of people. Am I right in thinking that it's not the same kind of wear as a funeral? Or it is the same kind of wear as a funeral? Obviously I'm not thinking of wearing sunny yellow, but not sure what the etiquette is for delayed memorial services?

Do you know anyone else who is going? I would ask them, to get an idea of what sort of stuff to wear. If it was me and I didn’t know what to wear, I would stick with dark colours, just to be on the safe side. I’ve never been to a memorial service though - just a few funerals, at most of which I wore black, but one where I wore bright colours at the request of the people who organised it.

I've never been to one before either. I have a burgundy dress with some white touches I was thinking of wearing, with a black cardigan. I thought it might be muted colours that still reflect the occasion while not going quite as heavy as funeral wear.

That sounds like a really nice outfit choice - smart and fitting for the occasion.

Thank you for your reassurance.

That sounds fine OP and honestly, as someone who recently lost their father I can say that the hosts will be very unlikely to be looking at what you're wearing, and just very glad you went to pay your respects

Sorry you lost your father. I know what you mean though. When I was the organiser of a funeral I didn't care what anyone wore. I've been to a funeral before, right after I'd given birth, and the only thing I had to wear that fit me was a black tracksuit. No state to go shopping either as baby was just a few days old and we had to travel. I decided to go rather than not and my BIL and SIL's looks said it all about what they thought of what I was wearing. No-one else seemed to care though.

If you do scarves, you could always put a colourful scarf in your bag incase everyone turns up in bright colours.