If your partner sometimes works away, do you enjoy it when they’re gone?

[Wouldawoodchuck]

If your husband or partner have to work away sometimes, does it bother you or do you quite enjoy it?

My fiancé very rarely has to work away, I’d say 3 or 4 times a year he might have to cover for someone for a week. This week someone is ill so he has had to go down to London to take their place and every single person has said something along the lines of “oooh I’d love that! A bit of peace and quiet” or “I bet that’s amazing, to be able to do what you want at home” or say that they love it when their DH is away. I’m the complete opposite and I hate it so much, and count down the days until he is back.

I just wondered out of curiosity if you like it when your partner is away? I seem to be in the minority

My dh works away overnight twice a week. The dog loves it cos he gets to sleep on the bed when dh isn’t here. I don’t sleep as well as when he’s here but I do like the space! We’ve been married 31 years and he’s always had to do occasional nights (he’s a Dr) so I’ve got used to it over the years. When he covers a weekend then I go too now dc are adults and we get an AirB&B and hope he doesn’t get too many calls (rural GP out of hours).

Whilst he’s not away away, my DH plays a competitive sport sometimes five nights/weekends all summer, as well as working full time in a sometime physically demanding job. I really bloody resent it come October when he’s in every evening….

Mine's away for three nights this week. Kids are older so it's not stressful solo parenting anymore. I love it! He's away every few weeks for sometimes up to a week at a time. It was no fun when the kids were younger though.

My husband works away for 2 nights once or twice a month. We have 2 small children so it’s quite hard juggling nursery runs etc but I do quite enjoy having the bed to myself and watching things he doesn’t like in the evenings!

No, not really. It means I have to do all the housework, childcare, shopping, cooking, etc., all by myself!! It’s so much easier when he’s here.

I like it. He used to be in the forces, so I became used to him being away for months at a time. Then he got a ‘normal’ job, WFH, and is HERE. ALL. THE. TIME.

So when he occasionally goes to a meeting elsewhere and has a night away I get very excited. But I am always pleased to see him when he comes back again.

Before child, yes. Now, hell no. Flying solo with toddler is too much.

Mine used to do about a week a month somewhere in the US or Australia, plus a few 2-3 day trips. I think it depends on how you approach it? Before we had kids I would schedule fun things to do during the time he was away, catch up with friends and also enjoy having the house to myself. When our daughter was small I hated it - it was so disruptive and we both missed him hugely. So then it was very much a question of just trying to get through the week in one piece.

We're now divorced and only see him occasionally so I've had to get used to being a single parent permanently, and the years of travelling have really helped to prepare me for what it's like. Soooo I guess that's a bonus? 😂

Oh yes. My DH cancelled his weekend away, recently, and, although he never stops my plans, just not having the bed to myself, for 2 nights, was disappointing!

Yep, I absolutely love it when I've got the house to myself for a day or two. I can do exactly what I want, eat exactly what I want, when I want, watch whatever crap I want.

If I'm honest, I'm probably not doing much different to what I'd be doing if DP and DD were here. But it's the fact that I'm doing it because I want to, without having to worry about whether someone else wants the TV, or not put my music on because DP has a migraine, or that they won't like my choice of film etc.

Would I want life to be like that permanently? Fuck no, I turn into a right anti-social goblin when I live alone, it's really not good for me. But for a couple of days, I love it, it makes me appreciate them when they come back all the more.

Yes I love it - love the house staying clean and tidy and just cooking whatever I want, eating when I want and doing whatever I like! The longer he's away, generally the harder it is to adjust when he comes back, even though we have a great marriage and love each other very much!

Yes I don’t being alone! I don’t have kids so it’s just me if he’s not here

My husband has just left for four months on deployment.

I have managed to have 5 migraines in 8 days which is unusual on my medication regime these days and a real PITA because normally DH would do all the dog walking etc so I can sleep off the attack. Not this time!

I enjoy having peace and quiet, but it does take a little getting used to each time. The odd night is brilliant, extended periods require some planning as I need bombproof dog care for my current role so that I can do my own nights away.

Yes.

DH worked away a lot, it was so much easier to plan my time, plan meals and watch what I wanted in the evenings.

Now he's semi-retired and is here all the time and I really miss the time I had to myself. I used to cook at weekends and live off leftovers during the week. Now I have to cook two meals a day!

I’ve never minded my partner being away but I wouldn’t say I love it. I can have peace, eat what I want and do what I want whether he’s here or not. I prefer him to be here though but we have a very easy relationship and he’s very easy to live with.

Yes! He’s retiring soon and I don’t know how I am going to feel about him being here all the time

I hate it. Not because I have the kids on my own. It's easier with him here, but we pull together and are fine on our own during the day. I just really dislike going to bed without him there. We both sleep better when we're together 🤷‍♀️