For background I've been with DP about 8 years. We have a DD together. DP is currently off work for various reasons (both physical/MH) and drinks quite heavily. He's went to the GP about this and is currently in therapy. He was drinking last night (although he has cut down generally) and had planned to sleep on the sofa to let me have the bed as he snores/flails when drinking. I was content enough to sleep in the spare room as it tends to be cosier/warmer and sleeping on the sofa exacerbates his physical issues. I was exhausted by 10pm so took myself into the spare room and texted him to let him know I was there so he could have the bed. My phone was on silent and I fell asleep. Around 11.30pm, DP bumbles into the room turns on the light and starts rambling about how I should read my messages after texting him etc. I look at my phone and he had texted to say "take the bed, get a good night's sleep. I need you to watch DD tomorrow so I can do some diy"
He tells me to go back into our bedroom to sleep and reiterates what he said in the text whilst chastising me for not reading them. Bleary eyed I trudge in and he goes off downstairs again. I was too tired for an argument. He then sends another message to say "stop ignoring your phone when you sent me a message, this all could have been avoided if you had read my messages" The irony is, I'm now exhausted today as I was so annoyed at being woken last night and couldn't sleep for ages. When I did sleep I had terrible nightmares.. Although he will say he was being considerate, I feel it was controlling and he was essentially punishing me for not reading/replying to his texts. His behaviour felt quite irrational/unstable. When I mentioned it this morning he brushed it off and muttered something about "well you can sleep in the spare room from now on then". I appreciate I may be blowing this out of proportion as I'm still tired however he sees it as a good deed being thrown back in his face.