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Bloody men and fucking nits

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Squarestones · 19/10/2025 09:14

Nits are bloody endemic in kids primary school. If it's not one bringing them home it's the other and they younger two hate hate hate any kind of treatment. Which I get, but it makes the whole rigmorale so much harder. Takes up so much of my time and husband never does it. Probably would if I asked but it's just always been my job.

While combing hair (thankfully not many actual nits this week as it's the week two follow up from last week's infestation) a man I am on a rota with for our church messages to basically try and get out of being involved this week which reminds me he is the most man-like flaky man imaginable. Once I had to do something on my actual holiday (abroad, with extended family) for this thing we do because flaky man was 'so busy'. I have since then been trying to work on developing boundaries and wouldn't do it that way again but it still rankles.

I'll have a tea in a moment and feel more charitable towards him, he does have a new baby which is tough. And DH is a good husband, ilhe does other stuff for our family load which probably feels as annoying to him as nit treatments

But right now I feel I just need some solidarity from others dealing with endless child management and flaky self-centred men.

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TwinklyWrinkly · 19/10/2025 10:08

I can't really give you any solidarity because it feels like you are being a bit of a martyr. I don't understand why don't you just tell your husband it's his turn with the nits and why didn't you just tell your colleague you were on holiday and therefore also too "busy" to do his job for him instead of doing both things but then moaning about it.

Squarestones · 19/10/2025 10:22

@TwinklyWrinkly Of course yes I'm being a martyr and that's why I'm working on the boundaries. For various reasons it's quite hard for me to set and hold limits with things like the rota stuff. I'm having therapy to deal with some of that.

Re husband and nits- next time I will do but today I couldn't as he was out and I guess that coinciding with the other guy especially annoyed me.

In the meantime I guess I just wanted a moan. Solidarity or a head wobble (as I think you've just given me) all welcome.

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