Feeling upset over sleep

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I've been up since 5 to 12. My eldest (3) woke and wanted me to get in his bed while he fell back asleep then my youngest (1) woke and is only just getting back asleep now

I've been up for 2 hours and had like half an hour sleep before this. We've got a day out today and I have cried. I am so tired and every night my sleep is so broken. I feel like when one goes back asleep the other child wakes

Im so tired and I know its. A phase I just would love even a. Block of 6 hours straight sleep

5-12…. And you posted this at 2am

im confused!

I think by 5 to 12, she means she was woken up at 11.55, so over two hours ago from when she posted at 2am.

Now, come on, I'm sure you can work out that the op means 11:55 in the time it took you to write that snippy post.

Op, hope you managed to get some sleep. It's the hard yards when you have two little ones. Hope your day goes okay.

I'm so sorry OP, drink all the coffee.. can you go to bed tonight when kids do and get a couple of extra hours that way in case you're woken..

This is why they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture.

I hope you are still asleep after now and have managed a few hours in a row.

im awake having been up and down list of the night as I suffer cluster headaches and then I get a sore neck and upper back.

i know it’s only because my ds is now 21 and I have non plans today (other than washing and batch cooking) that I’ll get through it.

A day out is lot when tired. Do you have a DH/P who could share the nights or give you a lie in?

I hear you, we’re at hourly wake-ups for over a month now, I’d give everything for only a 4-hour stretch one night to get any deep sleep. All I’m doing is dozing in between the many wake-ups and I’m a zombie. Hard to imagine that I used to sleep 8-9 hours pre baby and got grumpy if I ‘only’ had 7 hours one night

Yes sorry I meant 11.55pm I was a bit tired typing!

I managed 3 hours and its zoo day so lots of coffee lol. Just felt very emotional everything always feels worse in the middle of the night doesn't it?

But the day comes around and we all suck it up and get on with it dont we

I do have a husband. Help wise? Im not sure how but he sleeps through it. I told him this morning and he said "oh my word are you okay"

Bare in mind I spoke to him in the night and I got some responses byt hes a heavy sleeper and a sleep talker etc so yes he was bloody oblivious

And same here pre kids I would act as if I was exhausted if I didnt get my 8 hours... lol!!!

you have a selfish husband Op

Thst is your main problem

Although… surely you could shake him awake?

I dont bother anymore. Used to but he'd just go back asleep

So…. Sounds like bigger marriage issues at play

So you would shake him awake
and he would just roll over and go back to sleep

and you then… what? Cracked on alone?

Yep hes a really heavy sleeper. Its always wound me up

I have always got on with nights alone

So you’ll never ever feel comfortable going away for the night and leaving him with the children?

did you discuss his very deep sleep before having children?

so he’s never got up for his children?

What possessed you to have a second with him.

Yes ive never left them overnight with him theyve stayed with grandparents now and then

Briefly but when I was pregnant he said he'd 'obviously wake for our child'

2nd wise , she was a lovely surprise

Apologies for the deep dive into the issue which is DH being possibly the heaviest sleeper ever whereas I heard one of the kids turning around in their bed on the monitor the other night - and it fully woke me

Crappy marriage OP. Crappy man.
Don’t have a third

Do you genuinely believe if you were hospitalised right now for a couple of nights and he had sole responsibility, do you think he would wake up for his children or not?

I think he knows that you will always do it so he has learned not to get out of bed and just falls back asleep.

Stop being a martyr and wake him up, they have 2 parents, he should be parenting. Wake him, every time you can. It is unfair for you to go without sleep. You could always treat yourself to a night in a hotel, get there in the afternoon for check in, have a sleep, wake up, get a meal without needing to cut someone else's food up then have an early night and sleep uninterrupted. You deserve it.

I honestly think you need to challenge the ‘heavy sleeper’ rubbish. He is choosing not to wake up - and to go straight back to sleep as he is not on alert like you. He’s relaxed and knows you’ll do it.

You have to be firm. Wake him up properly and don’t let him go back to sleep. Be clear he is to help you out in the night.

I’d go away and let him get on with it. He won’t sleep through crying children. Nobody can.