Okay, so I'm not a "disaster" really, but my DM said I was today

[ForeverDelayedEpiphany]

...after she said that she thought i was disorganised for not having the right type of coat to wear for our forthcoming EuroDisney trip in a week's time...😟😳

Yes. I know, I'm disorganised, and I have always been. My life does feel like I pretty much just bimble from day to day life, not knowing my arse from my elbow. Perhaps some element of possible undiagnosed ADHD perhaps, or just me being a lot more scatterbrained than my overly efficient DM and my DH...

But I know it's silly to say I dont have a suitable coat, even though I actually have too many (cheap, unsuitable) coats for travelling, changeable weather etc.

That's probably why I felt annoyed at the suggestion I was a disaster, and I know that my DM was probably just half joking.

It did hurt a bit though, as I do think I am always lacking in planning and organising skills. And perhaps she hit a nerve. 😔😟

So why buy a new coat? Wear one you’ve already got and tell your mother you consider it to be suitable. You aren’t a child, your mother doesn’t get to dress you!

Your mother doesn’t sound nice OP.

Its going to be about 16 degrees and light rain next week in Chessy, (but its often very interchangeable) so you don't need a heavy heavy coat.

Shoes are where its at - have at least 2 pairs unless you have waterproof ones!

Have a fab time.

MY Niece has the same attitude as you but what she doesn't realise is that it is exhausting for those around her. Nobody can trust her to turn up on time, remember to even turn up or organise anything.

You sound like the best kind of disaster to me! Can I come and wear one of my many ”never quite right for the weather” jackets too 😂😂

The world has disasters lacking in suitable jackets selection skills, and it has disasters lacking in keeping their bloody traps shut skills. What a disastrous kind of world we live in 😘

Treat this with the good grace to realise these things always say far about the speaker, then the subject and have a marvellous holiday 🫶

So let her 🤷‍♀️ Quit worrying about her and worry about yourself. If she doesn't turn up, she misses out. She'll live with it. Mind your own "perfect life" business and you might not feel so exhausted by things that are none of your business anyway. I bet she feels exhausted from the constant judging and sniping she receives. I hope she does half of it on purpose for own amusement. It would serve you right.

Why does it matter if your DM would wear it or not? She’s not wearing it, you are 🤣

I’d take a hoody then a warm-ish coat (fleece/down type or a fashion one i.e. something non waterproof but that will keep you warm) and then a waterproof jacket to go over the top that is light enough to go on your bag. You are totally prepared for all event then.

I do theme parks (UK) a lot all year round and that’s what we all have. My kids both have a 3 in 1 coat (fleece and waterproof that zip together or can be worn apart), DH has one too. I have separate fleece and waterproofs and a down jacket (I do a lot of D of E with my school). We also all have a poncho waterproof from Decathlon (me and DH) or Amazon (kids) that folds down quite small into a bag that are awesome for theme parks (especially when my son wants to do the water rides in late autumn when you don’t want to get soaked as you won’t dry fast 🤣)

@airportfloorwhat I think that @ERthreeis hinting at is you don’t need to panic because someone else, more organised, sorts out that you don’t have the correct ticket. Or someone else with you who was organised, ends up being delayed / missing out of some events because they are waiting with you to sort stuff out.

But this isn’t the same as not having the right coat- unless the OP would expect her mum to sort it, or go back to the room early if she’s cold/wet, having the wrong coat would only affect the OP.

If that’s the case then I’ve been misinterpreted.

I am saying OP may not be particularly scatty at all as it’s a hard moniker to shake and people extrapolate. For example by suggesting someone without the right coat also doesn’t turn up to events.

I find it a bit odd to call someone a disaster for not having the right coat before they’ve even gone away.

And that even if she doesn’t have the ‘right’ coat I’m sure she will be fine providing she doesn’t moan about it endlessly.

not sure where the notion that

Can’t edit that last bit out for some reason. Too scatty!

I have no idea what 'the right coat for EuroDisney' even means. It's not exactly Royal Ascot is it?

Wherever I go - unless its Siberia - I just aim for something lightweight and showerproof.

I have no idea what 'the right coat for EuroDisney' even means. It's not exactly Royal Ascot is it?

Wherever I go - unless its Siberia - I just aim for something lightweight and showerproof.

I once packed wet / damp clothes into my suitcase with a view to drying them fully once I got to my holiday 😅
No harm done really but it is a funny memory.
Weird really, because in work I am known for being super organised.
So you aren't a bad person for not being organised but your mum could be a kinder person!

OP your DM’s comment was ridiculous, you’re going to Paris, not the North Pole! It wouldn’t even occur to me to buy a new coat to go to Disneyland! I’d just look at what the weather’s going to be like and chuck some suitable clothes from what I already own in a suitcase. I think most normal people would. It’s her that’s being weird here, not you. People that “jokingly” put you down like that are usually jealous of you in some way or feel threatened and like to put you down in order to feel superior and in control because they don’t feel either in their own lives. It’s not ok. It may seem trivial but if it’s a pattern then she needs called out on it imo…or fire right back at her with something like “wow you must have a lot of time on your hands to be able to plan that meticulously for every mini break”

I agree, here children deserve to be left waiting for her at school. You are absolutely right i should never expect her to arrive at a family event on time and i really shouldn't have been annoyed with her because my Dads ( her Grandfather) memorial service had to be delayed by 40 minutes because she couldn't find the shoes she wanted to wear and was therefore late collecting another family member. Totally unacceptable for anyone to be upset by that.

1. Disney is slightly warmer than you rhink, especially as some queues are under cover but in the evenings it does get cold. So a coat and jumper which will fit into a back pack are ideal. I went in March and ended up taking coat off during the day and keeping gloves etc in the bag but we rarely wore the lovely Minnie mouse beanies I bought

1. Needing to shop and buy things is a symptom of ADHD....

You've missed the point entirely, although the two points here certainly paint a better picture of an entitled brat!

If her children are left waiting - SHE should bear the consequences from the teachers/school.
If she's not at the memorial - it starts without her!

LET HER bear the brunt of the consequences of her actions! Stop being so accommodating to this awful behaviour.

I take back the bit about hoping she's doing it on purpose OP.