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Biting the hand that feeds you

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Cavapoopoo · 17/10/2025 14:13

My two year old cavapoo can bite me out of nowhere. I can be hugging her or massaging her, it’s very frustrating!! She is clingy but that I can handle. She also barks at nothing. Constant barking.

Biting the hand that feeds you
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MultiFucktional · 17/10/2025 19:38

If she’s biting you when you are touching her she obviously isn’t happy to be massaged or hugged. Stop doing it!
Most dogs give a couple of subtle warning signs before actually biting, maybe you aren’t picking up on them, or are just ignoring them.
You are hugging her for your own needs, not hers, and she doesn’t like it.

Whereismyfleeceblanket · 17/10/2025 19:41

Dpuppy was like this on the sofa with 1 particular dc.. We stopped her being on the sofa and it never happened again.

autienotnaughty · 17/10/2025 19:46

She sounds anxious and clearly she doesn’t like to be hugged and massaged!! You would be best to get a behaviouralist to work with you on how to meet her needs

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Whereismyfleeceblanket · 17/10/2025 20:01

We had 4 ddogs. 2 loved being massaged when they slept. 1 nearly had my foot when I accidentally touched her with is when when she slept soundly.. Your dodgy is young and maybe you don't actually know it well yet. But now you know it doesn't like that!!

TrifleSprinkles · 17/10/2025 20:06

DDog (cocker) was clingy like bit of velcro but was like a cat in that it was on her terms. Just wanted to be glued to you but didn't actually want to be stroked and got nippy. She grew out it though.

QueenClinomania · 17/10/2025 20:11

Shes telling you to stop what you are doing.

Stop doing things that she bites you for.
Maybe take a course to help you read dogs body language so you can read her better.

And train her to stop barking.

There are lots of resources online that clearly show how to do that.

Forfogsake · 17/10/2025 21:06

Cavapoopoo · 17/10/2025 14:13

My two year old cavapoo can bite me out of nowhere. I can be hugging her or massaging her, it’s very frustrating!! She is clingy but that I can handle. She also barks at nothing. Constant barking.

30 + years experience here training dogs
She thinks she’s boss, she’s calling the shots. I see she’s on the bed. Stop that immediately, no sofa. Don’t allow her to elevate herself, it’s the floor or her own bed. She barks, stand up look around (even if you know what she heard) then tell her to stop if she doesn’t then time out, put her somewhere behind a door so she’s excluded and can’t see you. When she’s quiet she then is allowed back in.
if she bites you grab her, shout No! Immediately Put her onto her back in the submission position and do not let her up until she stops fighting you and is calm.
if you don’t tackle this now, she will probably escalate and at some point you will have a visit to A&E to be stitched up, she may end up euthanised. I have literally seen this identical situation many times, my own friends dog same age, crushed her hand, broken in several places 14 stitches and he was sadly euthanised a few weeks ago. She tried all the softly gentle parenting techniques, expensive dog therapists, £8k in MRI imaging in case he was in pain etc etc
she wouldn’t take my advice because in her words, he may become scared of me or stop loving me if I’m harsh with him.
what’s best sorting a problem really quickly and then having a loving respectful relationship with your dog for the rest of its life or risk the above.
Note..most dogs don’t ever need this approach but some occasionally do!

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