2 party invites wwyd

[Bumble2468]

My ds in yr2 has been invited to 2 parties, same day & time. Both children in the same class.
I'm massively overthinking it but don't know which one to accept.

Ds is very close friends with one of the kids and has been for a long time, but not keen on the party activity.

The other one ds is less friendly with, never mentions playing with but ds wants to go to this one.

I think he should go to the one he's better friends with.

The one he is better friends with. Otherwise he’s choosing the activity over the person.
how would he feel if his good friend chose to go to someone else’s party over his just because it sounded more fun?

Probably go to neither and have a nice day somewhere!!
(I do tend to sit on the fence about things though!)

Who invited him first?

I think you should let him chose. He might make new friends at the second party.

Are both of these invites whole class or just a small group?

I would encourage him to go to the one he is close friends with. Having best friends at a party is more important than having lots of friends, and more important than the activity. Get him to think about how he would feel if his close friend didn't want to come to his own party.

How big is the class? Are the birthday boys invited to each other's parties?

Surely, assuming your son was free at the time of the party, you accepted the first invite he received so that’s the one that he honours as he’s already committed to going there.

Both invites came within a day of each other so I hadnt replied to the 1st. 1 in bag from school, the other via WhatsApp.

I dont know if either knows about the other. I'm friendly with the mum of the one ds is good friends with. This friend is a girl, imagine the other party is mostly boys.

Depends on the activity. If it's one that he will actively hate (scary or whatever, girliness wouldn't qualify) I wouldn't make him do it.

30 kids. The one he's close to is a girl and likely they're not invited to each others. The boys one may be whole class but that's the one we got first.

I'd let him choose the boy's party, especially as he received that one first. Then reply to the girl's mum saying (honestly) really sorry but DS got an invitation to X's party yesterday, which is on the same day.