Living with a music snob

[LittleBe]

DD (6) has just discovered the KPop Demon Hunters music. We haven’t watched the film, we don’t have Netflix. But all her friends at school are singing it. She has been happily singing and dancing along for about a week.

This evening she asked me to put on Golden so she could do a show for DH.

Cue his comments of do you call this music, what happened to music, where did it all go wrong etc etc.

DH is a passionate rock guitarist and only listens to music from pre-2000 with a very few exceptions.

I partially agree with him, that music used to be better with raw talent. But modern day music still has talent involved, even if it is driven by the music industry and money. And Golden is a bop, it’s been in my head constantly.

Tonight‘s episode has made me view him as a snob. Would you agree? Or is modern music more about money than art?

As someone who is occasionally a music snob and appreciates guitar music especially pre 2000, may I just say 'Golden' is a cracking tune and one of my current favourites.

I'm glad he apologised OP. I think all parents have moments like that when they realise that their kid isn't a mini version of them, when their DS quits their favourite sport or DD shows no interest in a passionate hobby. He will have many more moments like this. Hopefully next time he keeps his views to himself and supports DD all the way.

He sounds more behind the times than a snob to me. Golden is an epic song! You and dc will love it.

Your dh sounds like an idiot from his initial reaction to be honest.

I have been into music and going to concerts since I was 14 and loved rock such as led Zepplin, Sabbath etc. My mum said it was old fashioned music!!
All my mates were into two tone and ska at the time.

Im 60 now and still love listening to the old bands but there is so much good stuff to listen to what ever genre you are into.
I really support music at grass root level and love seeing upcoming metal/ rock bands.
I get the best of both worlds by having my favourites and listening to newer interesting stuff.

I realised a while ago its not a bad thing to stay curious and interested to whats going on around you as you get older.

I must admit that I found it quite quite surprising that ds1 was brought up with the likes of Pantera, Slayer etc playing but cant stand the music! When we are out in the car after a while he will say ' mum, its too heavy, can I put a play list on' To mean a lot of his music is quite pedestrian although I have discovered a few bands through him that I like and have been to see.

If he's listening to pre 2000 music only he's a silly old man, not a music snob 😂

*defrazzled *

If he's listening to pre 2000 music only he's a silly old man, not a music snob 😂
You summed it up better than me.

He sounds insufferably boring.

That's what DH said to our DGS. I think its pretty rich for someone who thinks prog rock is the height of musical accomplishment.

Great update op

Sounds like the reaction my dad had to seeing me drawl over David Bowie performing Space Oddity on TOTP back in the early’70s.
”With that hair how can you tell if they’re boys or girls now?”

I'm glad he's had a rethink. Listening excitedly to performances you hate is surely a key part of parenting 6 year olds.

But he could do with opening his mind a bit more musically as well. Yes, there's a more 'writing to the formula' in current music than there used to be, but that doesn't mean there isn't also some very interesting stuff going on and some impressive instrumental and vocal talent.

Golden has more to it than he probably realises - as explained by a professional opera singer (and metalhead)

Duplicate post.

He is someone that still defines himself by music which is what juveniles tend to do. He is also narrow minded for not understanding that people have different preferences plus she is just a small child.

There is nothing wrong with loving music and having a preference but looking down on others choices in music is just ridiculous. The only person I know like this is the husband of a friend and he is a prick in more ways than one.

I share your husband's tastes and I do genuinely wonder what people hear in the current music scene, but each to their own.

I don't think it's completely generational. My mum (30 years my senior) enjoyed the same music I did in the 80s and 90s; I enjoyed the music of her younger days from the 60s and 70s. There's probably an influence from what was around in your formative years, but my sister who is middle-aged like me, likes contemporary music more than anything pre-2000.

My exH used to do this to the kids. They think he’s a snob and a bore even though they probably pretty much share his tastes now - but also love Taylor Swift.

Your DH is a knob op

100%

what a dick.

This ^
And when your DH was chosen to be the MAIN Expert in music? I don’t remember this.

Noticed your update, glad that he understood his mistake and made it up for DD.
lesson learnt - parenting is different from judging a contest. 🙂

He is also lacking in musical education about kpop - it is a highly innovative form, and culturally super interesting and important globally. It isn't Stock Aitken and Waterman. It's a cultural response to the environment we live in now, often representing a creative use of the technology we have now. Rock musicians have always used new tech, I bet DH would say Pink Floyd or the Beatles uses technical innovation to make creative points.

KPop creates things like new fantasy instruments based on computerised effects, and uses them along with real players. Musically it puts genres together in an amazing way and often has things like a jazz progression with hiphop beats at the same time which is quite interesting. Not to mention everything you learn about Korean culture and its evolution as well.

Golden, written for the film, is a song designed for virtual reality, I was reading an interview with the writer/singer who said she deliberately wrote it slightly too high to be sung in a real concert as it was designed for a hyper-real environment in the story (which is about fantasy and magic as well as showing a 'real' pop group). So it's an interesting thing to listen to, like a sort of double-strength intensity version of a song. Something like "Let it Go" from Frozen, another worldwide banger, was much more human, really about showcasing the lungs and pace and humanity of Idina M as a singer. Kpop often interests itself with playing at the limits of the human capability blended with tech and what that means for our identity and history. There's that group with the guy who can rap faster than anyone else in the world, can't remember who he is, but that sort of thing.

Anyway. I don't even know much about KPop. But I know that it's weird and limited to be a musician and not have much curiosity about what different kinds of music are trying to do.

I think your DH is a snob. He should have just gone along with your DD not slate her music choice. My dad would always say turn that bloody noise down but it is an age thing.

@NoBinturongsHereMate thank you for that clip! So much in just the intro of that song! Just the change from the intro to the triplets as the voice comes in - so so clever. And she says the thing about the pitch and compares it to Let it Go!