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Desperate for third baby

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Goldmedal2024 · 14/10/2025 15:55

I have two children (3 and 1) and I cannot stop thinking about a third baby. I have always wanted three and I just feel like there is another little person who is meant to join our family but my husband isn't keen for a third. Ideally it wouldn't happen for another year or so anyway but I don't know how I'm meant to stop feeling like this and accept that there might not be anymore.

I just love being a mum and love being pregnant, having a newborn and everything else that comes with being a parent.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you get over the urge for one last baby? I definitely don't feel done 😢

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rubyslippers · 14/10/2025 19:56

But Would you feel done after three?
patenting a baby / toddler is different from teens
Do you have resources and money and space?
it’s a big decision

Luxio · 14/10/2025 20:02

Honestly I think you need to find someone to discuss these feelings with in a professional setting rather than online. It's really not helpful or healthy for the need for another child to consume your thoughts to the extent it is especially when your children are still so little.

I agree with the previous poster that parenting a baby and toddler is very different from parenting an older child. I think you need to explore these feelings because what happens when you're not done if you have a third?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 14/10/2025 20:05

Having a third won’t stop you loving pregnancy or the newborn stage, you’d just want a 4th. And it’s fine to love being a parent because you already are one! Remind yourself of all the good things about stopping now and just soak in each stage of your kids rather than dwelling on the stages that have passed. A good marriage and 2 healthy children is a wonderful thing to have OP, enjoy it

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thirdistheonewiththehairychest · 14/10/2025 20:09

I was the same as you OP. Whenever I imagined my two dds in the future there was always a third smaller person there. We had dd3 and I knew then that we were done. No chance of a 4th! She has absolutely made our family though 😊

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 20:10

Luxio · 14/10/2025 20:02

Honestly I think you need to find someone to discuss these feelings with in a professional setting rather than online. It's really not helpful or healthy for the need for another child to consume your thoughts to the extent it is especially when your children are still so little.

I agree with the previous poster that parenting a baby and toddler is very different from parenting an older child. I think you need to explore these feelings because what happens when you're not done if you have a third?

What?! It’s entirely natural. In nature her body has recovered enough to do it all over again so this is a hormone surge. I got it after both my kids, and I definitely don’t want any more. Ride it out.

Blueskies3 · 25/10/2025 11:41

Maybe you just love and want the pregnancy and baby stage again?

ginasevern · 25/10/2025 12:28

If your husband isn't keen then listen to him. This isn't a one sided decision. I've known a few women who pushed ahead with a third (2 of them on the pretext of "accidentally" getting pregnant). Two of them ended up with the babies but no husband and the third woman's husband had an affair.

DarkForces · 25/10/2025 12:33

Loving being pregnant and babies isn't a good reason to have a third. It's such a short time. Your husband is also against it so it's not really an option. Enjoy the children you have at every stage and be present and maybe discuss it again in a year or two

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