It’s been really difficult to come to terms with my divorce. My ex-husband filed for divorce two years ago, and we’d already been separated for a year before that when he suddenly decided to move to another country, and later I found out he had cheated while on holiday (in that said country) that explained the sudden change in his behaviour.
It was so hard to understand what was happening. He completely cut me off, blocked me, and stopped communicating. I couldn’t file for divorce myself because of financial reasons, and he owns the house we live in. He was horrible to me throughout, and even after he filed, he was relentless about pushing things through. He took me to court over finances although I’m actually happy with the outcome now.
He abandoned our very young child. Today he pressed for the final order, and even though I don’t love him or want him back, I still feel really sad about how he ruined our family and DD often cries about him. I keep finding myself questioning my worth and wondering why I wasn’t good enough, which really hurts. It’s been such a long time, but I still can’t seem to get over the trauma or the hit to my confidence. Even though, I’ve done really well for myself since then and I’m in a much much better place now. Meanwhile, he’s lost his job, his home, and his girlfriend, and is struggling to find work. He’s living with his mum and has lost the social status he once cared so much about.